How do you get over the anger phase? How long does it last...

CisWhiteMaelstrom · 2015-06-30T05:16:52+00:00

Lol, I'm an EC and I'm still in the anger phase. It's not nearly as bad as it was though. When I first swallowed, I had to take prescription pain killers because I spent too much time clenching my jaw. I'd also just be doing weird shit like walking around alone for hours in the middle of the night because I just couldn't sleep with all the anger I'd been feeling. Now it's more like a simmering thematic aspect of my life and less like my governing emotion. I don't think I'm ever completely getting passed it no matter what happens.

My advice is not to worry about 'graduating' from it or getting passed it. Just do what the anger motivates you to do and try not to be publicly rash or self detrimental. It's not like the causes of your anger are going away or like they won't be reasonable anger causers in six months. What happened to me is that I'm simultaneously in more than one stage of swallowing the red pill. I think I'm going through all of the final four stages at the same time but with the strongest emphasis on the second and fifth. I suspect that most red pillers never fully get passed it but that they censor themselves because getting passed it is what the cool kids do. If I'm right, it's a shame.

fnordsnord · 2015-06-30T14:38:38+00:00

Anger, unfortunately, feels good. So does hate. We LIKE to hate "the other." And it feeds itself. You have to start deliberately trying to let go of it, or it will eat you alive.

ToshiroOzuwara · 2015-06-30T05:11:58+00:00

Are you lifting?

CryptoManbeard · 2015-06-30T11:06:54+00:00

You're not angry at women. They have always been the way they are. You're angry because you've been lied to. Reality did not meet your expectation, the world you lived in was a lie.

Anger will go away as you begin to accept a new reality. TRP isn't just a clever name. It's very similar to the matrix in terms of acceptance of the way things really are.

tepper2 · 2015-06-30T10:35:52+00:00

It lasts as long as you let it. You're never going to change women or how they work. You need to accept and internalize this. Eventually you'll see hypergamy and AWALT as facts of life, without the emotional response.

You still wish that women are inherently good and innocent creatures. The sooner you accept that this isn't true, the sooner you can put the anger behind you.

pheluhnee · 2015-06-30T15:50:56+00:00

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What is this?

laughkisskill · 2015-06-30T19:29:48+00:00

It lasts as long as you let it. It's your agency and your mind. You can channel your anger in many ways to help turn it into something productive.

You can use meditation to address the core reasons you're angry, and move to acceptance, amusement instead.

You can simply stay angry, "not recommended for the vast majority" but I have seen perpetual energy generators in the form of habitually angry people who turn it all to hobbies and Health "fitness".

It can't be controlled at the beginning, but staying there is a choice.

Title	How do you get over the anger phase? How long does it last...
Author	Ghostjoke
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Date	June 30, 2015 5:04 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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