How do you resolve internal conflicts? Morality, values etc.

TRP8myfeels · 2019-01-29T12:37:37+00:00

Sounds like you are looking for edge lords of purity like yourself. I suggest you focus on sports that provide ample motivation to be clean and pure like....

Crossfit, powerlifting, mud runs, long distance endurance bike riding, spartan races, iron man races, marathons triathalons....

You will meet tons of drug free people looking at the high performers.

Many still party sometimes but there are an abundance of clean people all around you.

I am one of them.

ghosts_of_me · 2019-01-29T12:10:58+00:00

Drink: When you go out to bars just drink tonic and lime, people will think it's a G&T and the bartenders will probably give them to you for free.

Cigarettes: Get yourself a vape and try to enjoy that when your friends are smoking.

neverquitman · 2019-01-29T12:35:25+00:00

It comes down to the person and how he was raised.

The question is very broad and requires so much to talk about that it would fit for quora better than here but I think it comes down to;

Pride. Reputation. Humility. Fidelity. Fortitude. Discipline.

The thing is you can't change the world but you can change yourself. Be a leader.

It's also about money. Think about it. Even to get drunk you have to pay, and the owner gets your hard earned money. Your money that you sweated day and night flipping burgers, or sitting in a cubicle.

Most of the stuff we interact/use we need to buy. The world is built on economy and money.

Some people are just mentally less emotional than you. Just remember that when they invite you to do something.

0io- · 2019-01-29T13:11:58+00:00

You don't have to do anything immoral to be RP and still have sex and stick to your rules. Nobody at a party where people are drinking and taking drugs remembers or cares what you're drinking. Just get water or club soda in the same type of glasses or cups everybody else is using (if you want to go to that party at all). Just own it, don't bother explaining it to anyone, don't call any attention to it.

You don't have to lie to girls to have sex with them, you can tell them up front that you're not looking for commitment or a girlfriend. Girls hook up with people all the time that they're not in any kind of relationship with.

At any university there are going to be some shy girls, religious girls, hard-core nerdy girls who study too much, etc. who don't party, aren't promiscuous, and haven't had sex (yet.) It's more effort, but you can have sex with them. If you want to be very strict, you can avoid going on any sort of date with a woman you wouldn't want to be married to or have a family with some day. I'm not sure what the actual numbers are, but some percentage of girls in college have never had sex, maybe 20% or 25%. You're just not likely to run into them at a frat party or place where everyone is doing drugs.

Don't lecture people who are partying that it's against your rules to do something. Just turn down the offer to smoke out or do lines or have a drink, etc. Especially if you're athletic they may think you're in training, have other things to do, used to be a hard-core alcoholic, are taking meds,... they don't need to know why you're not drinking and doing drugs. Don't explain, don't call any attention to it. See if you can hook up with girls you see in class that are never at any of the parties with degenerates.

_the_golden_rule_ · 2019-01-29T13:27:38+00:00

It's good that you're seeking the perspectives of others. I do this to, but for the most part, my views on people, life, and morality are fairly rigid and consistent. Though I'm open to influence, I know what my limits are and what I'm not willing to compromise on (fully accepting of the consequences).

In general, I'm simply not comfortable with American levels of hedonism. I think it leads to an empty and unfulfilling life, and people of this generation are going to be very miserable fucks (I don't necessarily blame them).

Studying Zen is one of the best decisions I've ever made. it's my discipline pill.

AloofusMaximus · 2019-01-29T15:59:08+00:00

When taking a look at your values, I think it's important to do several things.

1- First and foremost is to determine where that value had come from. Did you actually arrive at that conclusion, or did someone else do that for you? If you didn't arrive there yourself, do you fundamental understand the idea? Any idiot can parrot back words verbatim, but doesn't grasp their meaning.

2- Simply because people consider themselves part of some moral ideology, doesn't mean they ACTUALLY live it. To use Christians as an example... There are plenty that believe they're "good people", but aren't at all Christ like in life, thought, or actions. In fact are actually terrible human beings.

Unfortunately I very much get the impression from your OP, that you have a "holier than thou" attitude, and are looking for justification/reinforcement. If you view other people as inferior, you're already disqualified from being a good or virtuous man. Evil does exist, and you damn well better know you're more than capable of doing horrible things.

Read and understand philosophy, then live it.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-01-29T20:01:59+00:00

The more you can tolerate cognitive dissonance, observe it without trying to react to it, the better off you'll be in life.

Bdsmthrowaway0101 · 2019-01-30T22:07:23+00:00

This reads like an incel and the post probably wouldn't exist if OP was bustin his nut

peaceful_strong_man · 2019-01-29T11:50:14+00:00

Tldr?

Title	How do you resolve internal conflicts? Morality, values etc.
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Date	January 29, 2019 11:43 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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