The TRP way has been an enlightenment for me. I'm very grateful. Since I started taking TRP seriously and not as some misogynist sub-culture, I've lost my virginity and gotten laid a few more times. This has all happened in the past two months. But this way is not natural to me and I need advice on how to tell a girl I don't want her and to prevent myself from crumbling into a relationship I don't want out of want for safety.

Context: I went home a few weeks ago for a leave block (military vacation) and decided to give Tinder a try. I gave it a shot and wasn't getting anywhere (it was Valentine's Day so I wasn't expecting much). I matched with a girl who in her profile looked decent. We started to talk, never met up, continued to snap and text even after I went back to base. I did this out of hope to see her when I go home again and to just get more practice talking with women. She started to talk about what she wants in a guy and how she wants to date me. I stop talking to her. Kept myself from reaching out to her and was able to fuck some females on base.

Present: I am going back home this week on reserve status to do college and shit. This girl knows and wants to meet up. I don't. I've learned she wants to get married before sex, lives a good drive from me, and isn't that hot. I want to break contact but I also want to meet her in person because all I've seen of her is digital. I also feel bad that I've been leading her on and can empathize with how shitty this would feel. What advice is there for me?