How should I proceed with LTR?

PMmethepussay · 2018-05-12T12:34:27+00:00

I wouldn’t do anything about it since she probably does go out to shit-test you and letting her do as she pleases will make her hamster go crazy. Furthermore, remember that chicks have tons of opportunities to cheat on their s/o and if she were to cheat on you at the club she would do the same with the cute guy in her yoga classes that just asked her out. Don’t sweat it ! AWALT

zboo1h · 2018-05-12T16:36:20+00:00

If she's going to cheat, she's going to cheat. She could do it in a phone booth if she wants to. Some guy's car, whatever.

The problem here isn't that, because she will cheat at some point, because you never set her any boundaries, and obviously you have boundaries like this, because you're posting on reddit about how behavior of hers has been bothering you for a while. So you kind of fucked yourself because telling her NOW that it's always bothered you is just whiny and weak.

Honestly if it were me, I'd bite my lip, get a little distant, and investigate other opportunities. Of course there may be more context to this than I know, but that's my input.

360_no_scope_upvote · 2018-05-12T12:25:06+00:00

If you can't dump your chick on a whim then you have oneitis dude. You're going to keep over justifying shit behaviours to yourself in order to thinking it's all alright.

Dread game and attention withdrawal are your best tools. If she's too worried about losing you to other women she's not going to go out and shake her jiggly bits with other men. However this is pointless. You should've vetted this woman properly, the topic should've been broached a long time ago (no girlfriend of mine goes clubbing etc). You tried to turn a hoe (a plate) into a house wife.

No doubt you're going to hamster this post

PlanetNinja · 2018-05-12T18:01:56+00:00

You can’t change people. If she’s not LTR worthy demote her to plate and still fuck her.

Us3rn4m321 · 2018-05-12T13:35:28+00:00

Geezus bro, you should definitely be going out with her to the clubs and parties. Socially it makes your appear weak, people will just assume that you don't know how to have fun. And are you really gonna let other men hit on your LTR? You don't know what the fk she is getting up to.

MattyAnon · 2018-05-12T17:31:54+00:00

Am I exaggerating if I ask her to stop those activities? You never directly tell a woman what not to do, so how do I go about it? I know girls into clubbing/parties are not LTR-worthy but I don't want to dump her just for this.

These are not standards if you permit them, they are preferences.

Women know the difference. They care nothing for what you like, only respecting boundaries. And you don't have them. You will tolerate this. So, there's nothing you can do.

Or wake up, get some balls, and think "what would a man do?"

Title	How should I proceed with LTR?
Author	onpuzzle
Upvotes	10
Comments	22
Date	May 12, 2018 12:12 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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