How to apply less dread?

TheRedStoic · 2016-09-21T12:49:49+00:00

Don't supply less dread, from what i can tell that's just you taking care of business.

Provide more comfort to placate. (Add a few more beta traits, very few and very incrementally. Stop immediately if the comfort tests reduce, always healthy to keep her reminder of your value)

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2016-09-21T13:21:23+00:00

Take advantage of the situation and fuck her more often. Ask her to do little favors for you. clean the dishes, cook breakfast, bring you coffee, etc. Reward her good behavior with praise, unpredictably.

verily_rp · 2016-09-21T13:41:18+00:00

I just want to know a few ways to make her feel more secure in the relationship

For the love of god, DO NOT DO THIS. If she gets too comfortable, she will think herself above you. When a girl gets comfortable, she doesn't compare your SMV to hers anymore, she puts hers on top of yours. Once she does that, you can improve yourself all you want, and she'll still always perceive herself as higher, simply because she "had" you.

You must always, always, give her that faint sense of dread, that seed of doubt that she doesn't really have you secured. A good relationship is one where you're getting sex on-demand and the girl has this tinge of fear of losing you.

MattyAnon · 2016-09-21T15:44:32+00:00

Basically I just want to know a few ways to make her feel more secure in the relationship and avoid spending every hour of my day with my LTR.

Why?

Just spend less time with her. Spending time with her is your choice, not hers. Apply comfort, but don't commit too much.

"Promise me you'll never leave me!" says she.... "I'll never leave you" says he .... "Goodbye" says she.

seattleron · 2016-09-21T15:42:54+00:00

This is not a bad thing. Let her dread. Dread is healthy for an LTR. It keeps her focused on you, pleasing you, and taking care of you. Yes, sprinkle in comfort. Absolutely. But let the dread and her hamster do their jobs. Their job is to make your LTR a good one. Your job is to keep your SMV high, fuck her good, and give her some infrequent but consistent comfort. Just enough that she isn't going to leave you, but not enough for her to get thoughts that you can't do any better.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-09-21T16:39:26+00:00

My LTR of one year has been constantly wanting to spend more time with me, and worrying about me breaking up with her etc.

Congrats, you're doing it right. Why would you want to change?

Basically I just want to know a few ways to make her feel more secure in the relationship and avoid spending every hour of my day with my LTR.

Tell her that if your cock is in her, it can't be in some other girl. Then have her come over, cook you dinner and drain your balls. She'll thank you for it.

quicklogaccount · 2016-09-21T17:02:01+00:00

I'm going to challenge your reading, and the reading people are doing here. I'm not being boring, but it's a mistake I've done myself and I've seen people doing, and it screws your frame. I might be wrong but look out for that.

My LTR of one year has been constantly wanting to spend more time with me, and worrying about me breaking up with her etc.

"constantly"
Comfort tests don't happen "constantly". Maybe they do when there are kids around or something, but since we're talking about ONE YEAR, I'd bet on she's shit testing. It's common for women to want to increase comfort once they feel less attracted.

How does it happen? What does she says, and in what contexts?

Title	How to apply less dread?
Author	surfq
Upvotes	5
Comments	8
Date	September 21, 2016 12:42 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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