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How to avoid workplace/housemate toxicity?

ratsweatshirt · 2017-12-11T19:26:04+00:00

There's drama in both my work place and house mates. People always chatting shit about other people, I usually just give them super blunt replies and...

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December 11, 2017

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Title	How to avoid workplace/housemate toxicity?
Author	ratsweatshirt
Upvotes	2
Comments	12
Date	December 11, 2017 7:26 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/7j4jq4/how_to_avoid_workplacehousemate_toxicity/
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[–]Endorsed Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

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[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

it's wise we adapt anything in our interaction with females? Is there anything different in the way you Game now?

Yeah, gotta play within limits, now. First, avoid fishing off the company pier. It's fine until it's not. Lots of guys are like, "I don't care! I gotta have it!" which is a different version of "there's this one girl".

Other than that, anything else you think we should be wary of, in light of recent events?

You have to know who the "good citizens" are among the ladyfolk (and really anyone who can cause you trouble), and act according. Minimize contact with toxic people.

Also, I am super careful with anyone <30 years old because they were raised to run to mummy or teacher and not to solve things themselves. It's a problem.

I'm asking you this because firstly, I recall you saying that you're 50~ if anyone has experience how not to be a "creepy flirt" it's you.

It's really in the presentation. Just like, if a girl likes you, then it's not sexual harassment, etc.

And secondly, more than one high profile middle-aged man has already lost their jobs recently, for nothing more than having women accuse him of unverifiable stuff. Some of those women aren't even colleagues. I wouldd like to hear what you have to say about this whole shitshow. Thank you

Yeah, very true. That's the thing, for a lot of dudes it's shit that happened 30 years ago. That said, a lot of the guys getting nailed were serial harassers. Weingrabber, Spacey and Cosby pretty much all had it coming. I never understood the Louis CK/Matt Lauer "Um, here's muh dick" move, either. This is where game keeps you out of trouble.

Action Items:

A. Avoid saying shit to females at work that would piss you off if some dude said it to your sister.

B. Document THE FUCK out of everything.

C. Develop friendships within HR (and Legal, for that matter). You want the benefit of the doubt, if it comes down to it. The last time I had a possible situation was ten years ago - for whatever reason I always seem to get along well with the "alternative" people in office situations, so I never get in trouble - I got my version to my friend in HR before anyone else. It helped that my friend (a) ran HR and (b) HATED the other party.

D. Develop a few patrons. At one gig I had, the CEO/Chairman and I happened to be best buds, and people knew I had pull. At another one the GC of the firm that owned my firm was an ally, so a couple of times I need things killed, and he did it for me. At my current gig, the President is my patron, and I'm tight with the guy who will be running the show when that guy retires. You have to show those guys that you're reliable, and you have to treat them like regular guys.

[–]Whitified0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link

Also, I am super careful with anyone <30 years old because they were raised to run to mummy or teacher and not to solve things themselves. It's a problem.

You have to know who the "good citizens" are among the ladyfolk (and really anyone who can cause you trouble), and act according. Minimize contact with toxic people.

So... no more pump-and-dump <30 year olds?? Has things gotten that bad?

Some of the things you said are already RP advice even before the MeToo witchhunt. Most of us always lived up to "don't shit where you eat" motto

My question was more with regards to outside the workplace, and things out of our control... so perhaps: "How would you pump-and-dump a young girl now and not let her regret/imagination/bullshit negatively affect you in the future? If at all? After Metoo?"

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

So... no more pump-and-dump <30 year olds?? Has things gotten that bad?

Not at work.

Most of us always lived up to "don't shit where you eat" motto

I dunno. There's plenty of Conrad von Dumshits that show up in AskTRP inquiring about banging "this one super hottie" at work or wherever.

My question was more with regards to outside the workplace, and things out of our control... so perhaps: "How would you pump-and-dump a young girl now and not let her regret/imagination/bullshit negatively affect you in the future? If at all? After Metoo?"

Oh, outside of work things are easier. Just don't make it look like there's a quid pro quo like Weingrabber did, and understand when to fuck off. There are plenty of women who will happily bang, so if you get too much flake from a girl, release her back into the wild.

And pre-qualify the FUCK out of women you bang. All of mine are <25, but I also tend to favor Europeans and Slavs, who generally know whats up, i.e. I am not inviting them back to my place because I give a shit about their opinions about Trump, the Middle East, or whatever.

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