How to increase comfort without compromising attraction too much?

FuckboyAWALT · 2018-09-11T12:18:32+00:00

You need to calibrate. There is no need to give her comfort when she is comfortable. However never let her get too comfortable or you get boring.

To give her comfort, cuddle past orgasm, hug her, take her hand but don’t overdo this, always mix with a push. Compliment her on her dress or make up or smell but use these wisely and rarely.

BeeBopJoe · 2018-09-11T17:07:15+00:00

Comfort isn't important imo, chemistry is more important. If you guys bond well then she wont give much of a fuck even if part of her does feel like your a player.

If you are giving off way too much of a player vibe then figure out what is causing that and fix it. Make your compliments be less sexual and more "social" for example dont say "Hey you have a sexy ass" say something like "your actually a very sweet person".

Psychological_Radish · 2018-09-11T15:11:53+00:00

trust issues because of my player past

What the fuck? Having a reputation as a player is a good thing, unless you want to revert to being a Beta. I don't see what the problem is here.

Delirious911 · 2018-09-11T17:30:11+00:00

It's not your job to make her comfortable with you. Live your life and bring her along if she deserves it. She'll find her place.

nebder · 2018-09-11T23:04:39+00:00

Sometimes you turn off the game & innuendos and just chat. I like to talk about something they do or get them talking about something they like. Show some genuine human connection. Goldilocks that shit not too much not too little. Then pivot back into fuckboy attraction building give her both worlds for the emotional ride.

I was overcompensating into asshole territory and having similar results. Just takes a bit of human connection to dial it back just enough to keep em hooked.

Psychological_Radish · 2018-09-11T15:06:43+00:00

trust issues because of my player past

What the fuck? Having a reputation as a player is a good thing, unless you want to revert to being a Beta. I don't see what the problem is here.

Title	How to increase comfort without compromising attraction too much?
Author	Armourhead
Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	September 11, 2018 12:12 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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