I'm from America but overseas. Went on a date with a girl who is also from America, which went awesome. She seems enamored with me. Telling me how sexy my eyes are, touching up on me. Asked me after the first date to join her the next evening for another outing.

Went on the second date tonight. Great time with a suana, pool, and bonfire. This place is completely silent. You're not allowed to speak. Again, both of us were having a good time, flirting, kissing, laughing. She's blowing hot breath on me in the sauna. (I'm in a low-key city with no nightlife. This isn't a place you grab a few drinks)

We were by the fire and she suggested we leave. We make out a little and I invited her to come stay back to stay the night at my place.

She kindly said "no" while smiling. I withdrew my attention, quiet, not pouting. Rode her back to her parked moto down the road without chatting. She kissed me when she got off the bike and said she "had a great time." I just said, yeah and drove off.

There was plenty of kino from both ends. I feel a bit like her beta-bucks, but there is no possibility of a future since I'm just traveling, nor did I pay for her. She knows I'm leaving in a week.

So two questions. How many dates will you go on without having sex before you bounce? If she is kino, making out, compliments etc, Why did she turn down coming over?

Also, not a oneitis thing. Just want to learn more.