How to properly finger?

_the_shape_ · 2019-02-18T21:03:35+00:00

Refer to the thousands upon thousands of hours of porn references you must have seared into your brain.

There has to be a "big tit bimbo gets fingered.mpeg" clip in there somewhere..

[deleted] · 2019-02-18T21:04:05+00:00

With ur diq

CainPrice · 2019-02-18T21:08:35+00:00

Gentler than you think. When in doubt, always start very gently. It's sensitive down there.

Make out a lot. Pet, stroke, get her worked up and turned on. If she's not moaning and exhaling when you kiss her neck and you haven't touched her boobs and ass yet, it'll be sudden and jarring if you suddenly grab for the crotch.

If the woman has spent the night kind of pulling away the first time you try anything and is playing games and trying to be good, but you manage to get her pants off or if she's wearing a dress, it's possible to finger her from behind if you keep going around after cupping her butt. A lot of times, a woman will stop you if your hand comes at the wasitline of her panties from the front - that's direct and sexual and changes everything from a sensual makeout with petting to a sex act. But if she's getting into the making out and petting and your hand finds its way from her ass to her vagina without it being some big frontal sexual approach, she'll usually go with it. But if it's your first time, stick with an angle you can handle. The front is a lot easier.

Start with the labia outside. Don't just put a finger in. Just stroke the outside, gently, but firmly enough that she'll feel it on the inside. Get her worked up until she's wet enough that you can feel it when you brush the opening. Then move to the clit. Don't try to ram a finger in yet. Just gentle motions across the clit. Circular works well for most women. Gentler than you think. It'll be obvious when she wants it harder.

There's this noticeable shift where she goes from kinda turned on to soaking wet, and at that point, you can (slowly and gently) get a finger inside. Start with just one. Palm side up (up being her front). Just move it in and out a little bit first, but once it's going good, curl your finger a little and you should be able to feel a rough round part on the inside. Just past that part, it gets really soft. Gently work your finger in and out pushing your fingertip on that soft part just past the rough area, allowing the length of your finger to stroke the rough part as you do it. While that's going on, use a finger from your other hand to gently massage her clit. She'll enjoy that.

Lorespinner · 2019-02-18T21:02:39+00:00

Pfft. don't as a bro, ask a girl. We know what we want.

The first thing you gotta know is to pay attention and watch her and also let her help/guide you. Check with her, see if she's enjoying herself, ask if she likes it.

The second thing you gotta know is you don't ever need to actually insert your fingers, the part that feels the most good is on the outside, the clit. She may like you to insert them, but don't immediately go for that or do that the most. Also don't actually grind on the clit, that's like just sucking the tip on a guy. Work around it, above it, etc.

Trim your nails.

thrwy75479 · 2019-02-18T21:44:38+00:00

Interesting tutorial.

Note that different girls will like different things. I asked one girl to show me how she masturbates, and she stuck basically her whole hand in there, and was doing this cupping motion. She was going hard and fast too. I think she was stroking her G-spot, which is inside the vaginal opening on the top if she's on her back.

Another girl did something completely different. She used just her index finger and was lightly rubbing her clit in a circular motion.

There are probably general things that are true, such as it's a sensitive area, so being gentle is important. To get better results though, this is something where a bit of communication will help.

Title	How to properly finger?
Author	thotimusprime70
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Comments	12
Date	February 18, 2019 8:58 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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