How to start moving forward

FrameWalker · 2015-02-12T16:15:13+00:00

You're fine. Take baby steps. We all go through darker periods - you just need a change of pace and some fun.

I have no friends, never had a girl (girl in general, not girlfriend) and I never go out because I dont know where to go or how to.

Just take small steps. Find a meetup group. Talk to classmates- homework buddies. Invite people over. Throw or find parties together with the hw friends.

CouldntFindGudName · 2015-02-12T22:03:45+00:00

Alright here is a trick to meet new people. I bet you have at least 1 or 2 friends. If not then make them by suggestions given by /u/FrameWalker.

Now once you have 2-3 friends, you go out with them, you start to "do" stuff. Whenever you meet a friend and someone who knows them talks to your friend then ask your friend to introduce you and talk to the new party. So the next time you meet the new person you already have established that you know each other, have small talk and continue to do this.

When you keep making friends of friends of friends you have a large social circle. This won't happen overnight, it will certainly take time but it will happen if you keep doing it.

About depression, Lift. you need to lift. You need to concentrate on your life goals and you need to have a certain path.

depression is a symptom, and that is the body telling you that you're a lazy slob doing nothing in life. Start doing something, anything!!

It starts with small things, develop yourself, gain a momentum and you will keep going quicker to your goals. The momentum is really important and it can be helpful and it can be destroying you too if it's a negative one.

The reason it is difficult to come out of a bad situation is because it's not one single situation that fucked it up but it is a collection of lots of smaller situations that has a snowball effect. Once you gain the negative momentum you're fucked and it takes a great deal of time and effort to even stop that shit, now after stopping the negative momentum you'll first have to gain positive momentum and once you gain the positive one you will feel like life is easy.

Ever seen some people who just cannot make any mistakes and are having the time of their lives? We only see the effect but that is the result of years of effort put into it.

I'm sure you can improve yourself, you're 20. I wish I had found this place when I was 20 but nothing is lost. There is never too late to start.

fakeAk · 2015-02-12T22:43:57+00:00

I got new friends by going to activites, like dancing. I didnt know anyone there at the start, but eventually we became friends.

falafin · 2015-02-12T16:11:56+00:00

set up goals

work towards them

FullTimeSickCunt · 2015-02-12T17:05:27+00:00

Fuck, I'm in the same boat except I'm 23, still feels like I'm fuckn 15 though.

Title	How to start moving forward
Author	tropicalfire
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	February 12, 2015 3:48 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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