How to stop being submissive

baconOclock · 2014-03-17T05:42:32+00:00

Start saying no when you feel like saying no.

vandaalen · 2014-03-17T14:39:36+00:00

Yesterday there was a video posted over at MGTOW which actually learned me some new things that I have to look out for.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_TijDInhnEg

It's all about fake it til you make it.

You start by fixing your posture. And as funny as it sounds, you will automatically start thinking and feeling different. After some time you will start to integrate it and you don't need to have an eye on it anymore. And then you take the next step.

Don't be too impatient with yourself. It will take some time. But it will work. You will notice other people espescially women will be reacting differently.

Just a small thing from my history: I am 6ft. 1" and am heavily tattoed. Despite that people just wouldn't move out of my way, or when I was in a crowd, people would also cut their way through exactly where I was standing.

Today I decide who I will let pass and claim my space. I take my space in the subway, when I want it. I will also pick the free seat besides the biggest guy on the train and force him to make place for me just by making him feel uncomfortable with my presence. I deliberatly push myself to do so and look out for these situations. It's like a muscle which you can train. And so on.

Edit: You start to get more aware about acts of domination. i.E. I was talking to my contractor today and one of his female employees.

She is pretty much attracted to me and when she said something nice to me, he imidiately lowered that with a joke towards me and putting his hand on my upper arm squeezing it and laughing in way that stated he didn't mean it serious and doesn't want to hurt me with the joke.

If it wasn't for Rule No. 1 of Power I would have answered that by maybe putting my hand on his shoulder and a comeback.

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FinnianWhitefir · 2014-03-17T05:17:25+00:00

No More Mr Nice Guy is suggested a ton. The book really concentrates on why you should do what makes you happy and why it's important to make yourself happy first.

I went into therapy with a strong, analytical male therapist and over the long-run it really helped. I learned how to safely communicate with him as an equal, how to disagree with him that I never felt comfortable doing before, and how to stand up to him.

Those two things took me from being submissive and never comfortably able to communicate, to being completely free in a "I am fine, I'm going to say what I want with no hesitation, people can agree or disagree and I'll figure out what I want to do".

sekerzitski · 2014-03-17T08:45:36+00:00

Don't rush your reactions, speak slowly and generally less. Give yourself time to evaluate the interaction you're in and your urge to resist will gain more power.

kempff · 2014-03-18T05:56:01+00:00

How do i stop?

Fight a wild animal.

masterrod · 2014-03-17T10:27:48+00:00

If you have a gf, just ask her to play a sexual game with you where she has to do everything you say, and then you have to do the same for her.

If you are naturally submissive I would have to think that you don't like taking responsibility for things. I would look into your life think about things that you have passed the responsibility to someone else, or didn't do something because of an aversion to responsibility. Try to revisit those events if you can. Or try to take on some responsibility, where someone depends on you and your abilities (i.e. teaching young children, volunteering, tutoring, etc.)

itsmsbetty · 2014-03-17T04:34:15+00:00

You can be naturally submissive if you feel like. You don't have to be the alpha of the pack, and you can still get pussy.

It's not about being dominant or submissive. It's a mix of both. What you need to do is value your opinion and your knowledge. Which will make you respect yourself, and teach you when to be submissive (perhaps a boss, a greater alpha, someone more knowledgable) and when to be dominant (taking the lead when you dance, making a decision)

Title	How to stop being submissive
Author	imsoclose
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Date	March 17, 2014 3:47 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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