I'm fairly new to trp and I've noticed in my former blue pill life I orbited a LOT of women. I've always just had more female friends than male ones. My male friends are really close to me but I can count them on one hand. We'd all consider each other brothers actually and I've known them since childhood. But I have tons of female friends and I guess it didn't "click" with me that I was orbiting most of them until recently. What I did is I started going through my social media and my phone and deleting any girl who I friended because I thought I might one day fuck her. I've realized through trp that's never going to happen because I've done the whole beta, "be a nice guy, treat with respect, be there to give them a shoulder to cry on and be compassionate" thing. So I did a purge in order to start anew.

Within the last month, a steady stream of these girls I no longer talk to have OUT OF THE BLUE hit me up on text, call, messenger, email and are like, "Where did you go? I haven't seen you in a while." One girl who I've wanted to fuck for years but who only was on the CC with alphas called me out of nowhere just last night and I actually dont remember her calling me ever before. Normally we've only ever texted. But she called me and was like lets hang out, I want to do drinks, where have you been? I haven't responded to her because I just think I'll fall into that trap again of we hang out then, I give her the emotional support she wants then next week Chad leaves a load inside her. I don't want that life anymore.

I don't know how to frame my interactions with women so that I don't become the guy who they can lean on for emotional support. My nature is usually to listen when people are hurting (I'm in school to become a counselor actually). And I've realized over the last few months that my female friends know that when Chad breaks your heart after leaving a load inside that you can call me to listen to your ills. I want to break free from that.

How does one make sure that interactions with women don't lead to you becoming their orbiter? AND for girls who you've orbited in the past what do you do with those relationships once you've found the truth in trp? I've deleted a lot from my contacts but is that the best way to move forward? Trying to be a better man is the point of this post.