Background. 38M single for about a year after ending a LTR other than some failed short term online dating relationships with psychos. Maybe it's the Gemini in me but I've always teetered between Alpha and Beta depending on the situation. Of course Beta always failed me.

About a month ago I started dating a friend I'd known for a few months 39F. Things were going well for awhile and progressing nicely then the company she worked for threatened to shut down and recently did. She lost her job. During this time I tried to be supportive and encouraging and in the process found myself falling into the "nice guy" trap. She's said things like "I might try to pull away, you just need to call me on it." "I'm just really stressed out right now/going through alot" and things of that nature.

Well over the last week or so we've gone from texting and communicating every day to not talking at all yesterday. I didn't text her after a very brief conversation yesterday morning and this is after weeks of all day talking and a usual "good night/good morning text."

I'm at the point where I'm willing to exchange our shit and let go, but I'd really like to flip this around and keep this one around if possible. I've come off as slightly needy and need to change it.

My thoughts are contacting her today, making plans to meet up because I need my things and I want to talk and basically laying it out like this.

"Look, I know things have been stressful for you with losing your job and everything, but that's no reason to treat me the way you have. Lately, it's felt like you don't even want me around. I know what I bring to the table. I'm successful, good looking, know how to fuck you right, etc. If this is going to continue, you're going to have to stop treating me like a doormat and start acting like you actually want me around. If that's not what you want, deuces."

My perception is that the typical Red Pill thought is "you don't need her, you only need you" etc. And that's absolutely correct. But again, I'd like to salvage this if possible. Any thoughts or ideas?

[Edit] The Gemini thing was a joke people. I guess sarcasm comes across badly over text.

Update: After a brief text and basically saying this is no longer working for me, then her trying to shit test me which I believe I passed by reinforcing what I said and telling her we need to make arrangements to exchange our stuff, she's gone silent.