I absolutely hate my parents.

OptimisticalRanger · 2021-06-15T06:06:52+00:00

The same reasons you are disrespecting you parents are the same reason your in the situation your in. Because if you had more work ethic you wouldn’t be in such a bad situation. Despite them working as a janitor for 2-3 hours a day, they did their best to raise you, gave you free money and your shitting on them. Take responsibility and shit on yourself, for making excuses and not working as hard as I know you can. Life is a process, most of us hated our parents at some point in time. But you’ll come to realise that life may be unfair but the only thing you can control is your work ethic. Focus on that and never make excuses. It’ll help more than you think. Also it won’t be fixed in a few days or a year. This is a lifelong long dedicated process.

slrml617 · 2021-06-15T06:09:01+00:00

Part of TRP is about manning up and taking control of your own life. Stop blaming others regardless of reasons. It's your life you got to live it.

Get your shit together. Don't like your lifestyle? change it. Don't like your job? change it. Stop complaining. Start taking making changes to take control.

2O27 · 2021-06-15T07:20:11+00:00

Focus on your life, don't worry about the cards you've been dealt. A good player wins no matter what cards they have been dealt and quite frankly you're lucky to be in first-world country, imagine living in a currupt third-world country with no opportunity of upward mobility. What do you want to accomplish? How do you get there? You're a NZ citizen, you have basically free education. I understand it's not "free" but 0% lifelong interest on a loan is basically free if you understand time-value of money. Get back to uni to increase your human capital, if uni is not for you pick up a trade, there many out there that are high-pay. You can literally take the next 3-4 years to focus on doing that and don't have to worry about money, with student allowance or 0% loan the gov pays for your living costs.

DS_1900 · 2021-06-15T13:08:32+00:00

Your parents telling you to become mentally stronger is PERFECT advice for you based on what you have said in your post.

Robbolovesbobs · 2021-06-15T06:12:35+00:00

First thing I would do is start ignoring your parents, if they live in a different country it shouldn’t be that hard. Talk to them by all means, be polite and ‘listen’ without actually listening. Your 24 now it’s time to start taking control of your own life, you were dealt a bit of a shit hand, you’ve got to learn to accept it and play it. First thing I would recommend is learn how to budget effectively, you say you have nothing to show for the past 5 years, make sure the next 5 you do, a budget will help with that. If you can afford to go back to uni and you want to, do it. The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the next best time is today. If not Uni, think seriously about something work wise that doesn’t cause you to gripe when getting out of bed in the morning and that is scalable (software development, project management, engineering).

ibwriting · 2021-06-15T07:02:22+00:00

Persoanlly speaking I used to have this issue when I was younger and thought my parents whom were looking out for me (they didnt want me to ruin my life rather than teahcing me the lessosns they tried to control me) were lame and or annoying. Alot of what people here have a huge problem with is control and fear alot like what parents have over their kids i'm starting to notice it's the same coin just a different side.

You also gotta understand your parents came from a different time and as they get older they will have no clue what the world is like only understanding it from a TV.

I think about this alot since my grandmother has out-aged a majority of her peers and some celebrities as well from her time. To think you are probably some of the oldest people living on earth how the hell do you make sense of it? The younger you are the more likely you have more people whom are like you and such. So bare with me here.

They tried their best.

Your parents were doctors or touring artists etc they had you and tried their best. I dunno for others but that really is a hard pill to swallow. The new Amazon order of single moms or so deatbeat parents you probably see or will see in the near future your parents were in the same situation at one point or another. They came from a time where they had mental models where all you needed were some basics, the people whom understood others the best were proabably sociopaths or pyschopaths and such. But they thought that's how its gonna be. They didn't have a reddit or an armchair parent blog to teach them the most important thing a child needs.

Yeah it sucks ass man i grew up hating kids because they had a loving family that I didn't even have for a long time. That shit hurt I blamed them alot but when I got older I realized sometimes life comes at you quick what you do is what matters the most.

The funniest thing is that they probably want to see you do better than they ever thought possible but you're here on a reddit about sexual strategy complaining into the void that mommy didn't give you a tit to suck on. So who's worse you or your parents? Think about that...

Intrepid_Artist · 2021-06-15T06:26:45+00:00

You want I offer you tissue, cry baby.

Leave your parent out. It's your life

I don't give a fuck ahout you. Apparently neither you do

AlphaBetaSigmaDelta · 2021-06-15T19:30:13+00:00

Bhenchod

QTED95 · 2021-06-16T21:53:28+00:00

You’re an adult, your parents gave you money despite being “lower-class” as you mention.

You should try being more grateful and taking responsibility for your own life.

sauceyzaddy · 2021-06-18T02:08:50+00:00

As a man you need to go through difficulties because just like bodybuilding builds your muscles , difficulties build your character. Now man up , grab and pull your balls down and stop crying.

Title	I absolutely hate my parents.
Author	One_Button4120
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Comments	11
Date	June 15, 2021 5:58 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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