I can’t do it. I’m a failure.

fnordsnord · 2018-01-17T05:30:04+00:00

Okay. Wow. Here we go.

These are some of the facts with which a sexually active male MUST deal.

First: your instincts are correct - rejection sucks. That's why women make men do all of the approaching. It hurts and it can make you feel worthless.

Second: The bad news: rejection is common, and you better get used to it. Unless you are in the top 10% of SMV men, you are going to get rejected a LOT. You will therefore have to get used to it.

Third: The Good News. It's not personal. It will feel that way at first, but all that rejection means is that ONE girl on ONE day of her life didn't see what she was looking for in you TODAY. That's it. ONE girl. One day. It may be different with the next girl today. Or tomorrow.

Forth: There are more. There are 3.687 BILLION women in the world. (According to the world bank, as of tonight.) If you laid all the women on earth end-to-end, your dick would fall off from the chafing. (That's a little male humor, there.) But seriously, no kidding, the odds are COMPLETELY in your favor that EVENTUALLY one will like you.

Fifth, and this is KEY: If you don't listen to ANYTHING else that I say, listen to THIS: There is NOTHING, absolutely NOTHING, about any one of them that is so special she can't be replaced. I shit you not. One may have a beautiful smile or flowing hair the color of fire, or high, full tits so firm you can bounce a quarter off of them. But so will another one. "NEXT" is the most powerful word in your vocabulary.

Drink that in. Meditate on it.

Then go out and be awkward. Make eye contact. Walk up, and say, "Hi."

When I was your age, my opener was "Hi. I saw you from across the room and just had to know your name."

--69 · 2018-01-17T04:29:05+00:00

You may not understand what I'm about to say, but here it goes. Success is the ability to employ massive action and ignore rejection. I would approach at least 30 women a day if I didn't have to work. There's no fucking way you won't learn it if you approach this many women a day for a year. But let's be really conservative. If you approach 100 women a week, you'll approach over 5000 women in a year. That's a ridiculous amount of experience.

LavaPipe · 2018-01-17T06:15:29+00:00

Keep trying mate. You have to keep lifting, improving your look, and most importantly practicing. Make you your mission. Women shouldn’t be your absolute focus. The better you get at life through practice and work the more women will come naturally. Focus on having fun when you’re out with women. Keep reading the sidebar and keep trying, with discipline, you can do it

fnordsnord · 2018-01-17T04:13:17+00:00

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mrbfs · 2018-01-17T06:31:14+00:00

Find a job in sales, that will fix your problem in a month.

MattyAnon · 2018-01-17T12:06:21+00:00

. I can’t speak my mind. I can’t keep a girl interesting in what I’m saying. It’s PAINFUL

You're trying too hard to get her interested, rather than being interested in yourself.

Also - look at voice lessons or public speaking. Speak slower, louder (aim for 1 foot behind their head). Make what you say emotionally engaging. And keep it fucking simple - people's ability to comprehend strangers is astoundingly limited.

Girls are irrationally suspicious of strangers. If you don't have an introduction, it's going to be hard. Not impossible, but hard.

Girls are CONSANTLY teasing them, touching them, making little handshakes with them.

You can get there too. The trick is to be able to engage with them long enough that other girls see it. Flirt. Be safe. Be comfortable in yourself. Be dangerous. This seems contradictory because you don't get it yet.

. They’re the CENTER of a circle of girls, and I can’t even make my way into the outside.

Because you're on the outside. Stop being on the outside, put yourself on the inside. Find your own way to do this.

Title	I can’t do it. I’m a failure.
Author	PM_ME_WATER_MEMES
Upvotes	8
Comments	25
Date	January 17, 2018 4:09 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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