I feel like a kid.

LordThunderbolt · 2016-10-20T18:34:19+00:00

Do you even lift? No.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2016-10-18T18:02:25+00:00

Stereotypical social anxiety symptoms.

Take a public speaking class. Learn to not give a shit about whether other people are judging you. Trust me , they aren't, because you're not nearly as memorable as you believe you are. Other people we're paying attention during all those times you thought you were devastatingly awkward.

Understand that other people have more important things to pay attention to than what you say or do in particular.

Unless you're breaking the law, the worst thing that can happen to you is someone makes fun of you. Visualize telling them to fuck off, then walking away and doing something else. Visualize yourself not taking it personally or believing other people's petty drama somehow applies to you.

PeopleHateThisGuy · 2016-10-18T21:05:51+00:00

Explaining yourself is a part of your mindset. Changing that requires some introspection. Start with letting go of always explaining yourself. If your going to inconvenience someone, don't bother them with the Why. Just tell them what is. Tell them the facts of the situation and let them deal with it. It's a part of holding frame. Reality is a part of your frame, do not willing step into the frame of others.

Terdmuffin · 2016-10-18T21:31:09+00:00

I'm 27 and I go through similar feelings every now and then. Part of becoming an adult is feeling like one. You see others your age S an adult but not yourself. Realize that once you're an adult other adults (even those double your age) see you as an adult aka an equal.

When you're in school and stuff age makes a huge difference. An 8th grader is seen as fairly inferior to a 9th grader. As a 9th grade you might look down on the younger kid, assume you're stronger, smarter, more experienced etc even though there's a 1 year difference. Now compare that same 8th grade to a 12th grader and the difference is huge even though it's just a couple years.

However, as you get older these age differences pretty much go away. Sure there are some differences but for the most part (especially at work) a 50 year old is going to talk to you the same way they'd talk to an adult of about any age.

You're transitioning into your adult life and feelings of autonomy (just guessing here) and still identify with being kid at least somewhat. But once you realize you're an adult and other adults are going to treat you as such, it's easier to start acting like one

MattyAnon · 2016-10-19T00:10:14+00:00

You'll get past this as you grow and become worth something as a man.

Officer_Dick_Johnson · 2016-10-19T11:56:18+00:00

You're aware of what need changing in your behaviour. Now you need to become Consciously Competent in what you would like your behaviour to be.

Stop saying sorry for no reason.

Stop giving explanations if not asked (just stop after Yes/No).

It takes time you have consciously track your speech, but you'll get it in a short while.

banllama · 2016-10-18T15:41:09+00:00

Sounds like a cultural thing. Most non Western cultures have extreme supplication towards their elders and feels how you're describing.

Either way, it's your mindset. I consider everyone on the same level as me. I don't remember the last time I called anyone 'mr/mrs'. Everyone is on first name basis to me. Maybe not a doctor since it's an official title but for all other aspects, bosses, girlfriend's parents, etc, they are all equal to me and will be treated as such.

Note that this doesn't mean disrespect and that you call them motherfuckers like you'd call your friends. There's still plenty of things that are socially acceptable/unacceptable and that's on you as a mature human to know based on your experience what's ok and what's not ok.

Title	I feel like a kid.
Author	Dronitto
Upvotes	15
Comments	11
Date	October 18, 2016 3:13 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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