I took the redpill maybe a year ago, but my last year in high school I sort of became both red/blue pill by getting into a relationship where I became an emotional wreck when my partner ended things with me. I recovered within an month and again threw myself into another relationship in the second semester of my senior year which to my mistake I've become extremely emotionally invested in. The girl I'm dating is a soft 8 but the reason I've probably placed her on a pedestal is because the farthest shes gone is kissing someone (I'm also her first real boyfriend) because she's quite religious, has strict parents, and doing the whole waiting till marriage thing which I think is rare since I've been reading the redpill for the longest time ever. Also I don't know how relevant this is but she's not allowed to date so we've been doing it in secret for about 5 months.

Anyways everything has been going great and we decided that we would date in college since we are only going to be an hour away from each other and my parents house is where she's going to school. I went overseas for a vacation a few days ago and near the end of it she had her college orientation where she had to stay overnight so naturally she met some friends and got the whole college experience thing. So anyways the day after her orientation she's been starting to get pretty distant so I start to flip the fuck out. This goes on for the next few days, I get back and I still feel a distance so I wait a little and confront her about it last night and we talk about it. She doesn't want to break up but she's confused about what she wants cause she thinks it will be hard keeping a relationship with the college workload, and she doesn't want the relationship to get in the way of her making friends and all of that. Also one thing that really shook me was that she was talking about how it may be weird that I'm the only guy she's dated, so basically I'm getting this college exploring vibe even though I know she's not going to go around fucking other guys and I think she just doesn't want a relationship to hold that down. We really haven't been dating long enough to really solidify ourselves for something like college.

So in conclusion I'm now presented with a few options and I need advice from people without the clouded judgment ( I'm also open to any new suggestions). I can dump her after a bit because the distancing is having it's emotional toll on me and I'm worrying more than I am happy. I can play the wait game and convince her that it can work in college, but at the same time I don't think sitting back and doing nothing is going to fix anything. One more option I've thought of is that since she's going on a vacation with her family for two weeks overseas I could have us both cut all contact and give her a sort of ultimatum to think things through by the time she gets back. We haven't ever gone without contact for a full 24 hours so I assume the last one will be most effective and also potentially because I would loose a bit off attachment and become more redpill. If I can make this work I want to make it work so I don't want the whole plate nexting advice I just want some straight to the point trp ltr advice, thanks.