I feel forced to show high value. i dont text back emmediatly. try to come up with cool, witty, laid back texts. i dont text too much even tho i could text a lot and as i think funny stuff. it feels like i have to change my personality with texts. my humor doesnt really work with texts. in person i am funny, confident and all that stuff. i know how to read body language and overall im charming. but i just suck at texting. i guess its because i try to be non needy, which is the ultimate needy thing.

Reason why i finally came to the conclusion is following:

i asked this cute girl from my classes for her number after she looked at me several times and after i have talked to her a few times before the holidays. she told me she had a bf. after our conversation i looked up her number in the group chat and her picture appeared which means she added me as a contact. so i told her she handled the conversation pretty cool. we started texting with a lot of emojis, 'haha's and overall a good conversation. on christmas i texted her something like' have a nice evening' she replied entusiastically after which i thought it would be a good strategy to not text her again for at least a week or even at all to talk to her again in person. this morning her whatsapp profile image disappered so she basically deleted me i guess. i could be overreacting. i dont know.

can you guys held me with some tips/sources? i guess i just have to be myself and not give a fuck about beeing needy.

For my german brudis: weil ich so unfassbar sucke würde ich mich über eine analyse meine Nachrichten freuen. schreib mir gerne eine Nachricht falls du mir helfen möchtest. Ü Ebenso wäre es bestimmt eine interessante sache eine whatsapp/telegram gruppe zu starten in der man sich hilft und über themen unterhält. Freue mich über Nachrichten!