I asking what would be my ideal frame/mindset/worldview be?

I read about people sticking to their frame here, but i dont have a clear frame or idea about how to deal with situations and have inner peace in times of social conflict.

I'm an average joe, i'm pretty good looking and smart, so i have that going on for me. But im in no way shape or form a Chad, and i tell myself to not care what others think, but in reality i really do, and i cant rationalize why i shouldnt (OMG what if evryone start hating me!) <-shit like that, and you know id like that not to be the case. I wanna be more like Chad i guess.

I am looking for a framework to set up my inner dialogue, what do i tell myself when someones out to ''get me'' (dominate me) What do i tell myself when i go through hard times, what do i think when im sad and such?

I really want to internalize a alpha mindset and belief in myself. But i have so many bullshit beliefs about myself and the world i wanna start from a clean slate.

I wanna view the world and myself from whatever lense Trump is looking at the world, get what im saying?