Im losing friends...

kurdishpower01 · 2018-07-12T09:55:27+00:00

You give less fucks? lol

abudun79 · 2018-07-12T10:21:37+00:00

Dial your actual way of IDGAF back a little bit. Your post tells that you're not satisfied with the results you create, so take a step back and see if you do better with giving a little fuck while things are actually nice and fun.

IDGAF is not supposed to lead you into isolation and avoid enjoying social interaction.

trp369 · 2018-07-12T10:04:40+00:00

Seems like you’re doing fine. It’s good to have the balls to drop people you no longer mix with. I’m not in contact with my high school friends because they are all still gamer nerds.

It’s shit being lonely but just be confident and go make new friends in your new areas of interest. For example I try to briefly speak to some guys at my gym and if they seem open to talk I get them on Instagram and organise a workout together

komaddon · 2018-07-12T12:39:42+00:00

Join an MMA gym. Plenty of RP guys there. Or even a regular (local) gym, just be social.

Also, if you're telling your friends about TRP, stop. I made this mistake and I hate the "friend" (read: White Knight) I told it to.

MattyAnon · 2018-07-12T13:43:10+00:00

What's the problem here?

HardPiano · 2018-07-12T18:14:53+00:00

You need to come to terms with being completely independent. Become a lone wolf. Go to the cinema alone. Go to a bar alone. Sit in a cafe alone. Initiate conversation with random strangers out and about. Start introducing yourselves to strangers. I absolutely love being alone now. I can do what I want when I want to do it. I don't need to consult anyone about where we're going or what we do.

You'll realise a lot of people aren't your friends. They're just interested in what you can do for them. They're not interested in you, and the moment you start doing what you want and living life on your own terms it annoys them because they're losing their grip on you, as you take back power. It's a power struggle. Every relationship is.

If someone says 'I don't like you' I just tell them 'that's cool. There's times when I don't like me either' and it gets them mad. If someone calls me an asshole I'll respond with 'tell me something I don't know' or 'someone's got to be', and if someone says 'you wont make friends being like that' just go with the 'I get on with myself just fine'.

I've heard every single one of them and I don't give a fuck anymore. Being told I have an ego is the best one because people hate positivity, self belief and people with a disciplined action orientated can-do attitude.

If you're feeling lonely then you're not busy enough or dedicated to your purpose, or self improvement. Master time, and stop allowing for downtime that leads to you getting trapped in your head and overthinking things.

Musicgoon · 2018-07-12T18:27:51+00:00

I'm going to give you my best piece of RP knowledge that I figured out. Women who see what you can do for their lives will want to take advantage of you. Women who see what you can do for your own life will want you. Its that simple.

Go take yourself out (as stupid as it sounds). Get a nice dinner. Go grab coffee and maybe go to a concert or game. Learn to have fun alone and talk to everyone. Create your own happiness and others will want to be a part of that.

StrayFromThePathx · 2018-07-12T19:11:49+00:00

Lone wolf baby, fuck the rest. Obv having like-minded people surrounding you would be optimal but you have to be able to be ok with not having that.

Whatdoin27 · 2018-07-12T10:12:04+00:00

So you denounce your friends because they we're gamers? Yeah I'm going to call bullshit on that. Sounds like you wasn't really a friend to them in the first place. That's a stupid way to cut friends out....

AshyBoneVR4 · 2018-07-12T10:54:50+00:00

Become more comfortable with yourself and with the fact that you may end up alone. When you get comfortable with those two, you realize you really don't need other people in your life. Sure it's nice having friends, and companions, but they're not needed. If people don't want to hang around you because of who you are, you don't need them in your life. The alternative to that is you pretend to be something your not and you hate yourself for living a lie later on. If you don't like the way people act, then don't put up with their shit. Tell them you don't like it when they do XYZ, and if they're really your friends, they'll hear you out and understand you. If not, fuck em. You don't need them in your life. That's what people are talking about when they say give less fucks.

Title	Im losing friends...
Author	komaddon
Upvotes	3
Comments	33
Date	July 12, 2018 9:44 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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