I'm pissed

ErikTheRedPill · 2016-08-05T05:42:06+00:00

Something about your approach made her feel unsafe or creeped out. You need to provide a lot more detail about it, including body language and stance, for anyone to analyze this in more depth.

In short - you fucked something up or you're unattractive in some way.

vandaalen · 2016-08-05T06:46:08+00:00

Doesn't matter if you are right in being pissed. What matters is where does it get you and the answer is: Nowhere.

It does not help you solve the situation and it does not help with your social status.

What would you have done in my shoes?

We need to part the two happenings from each other.

The first part is that you got rejected by a girl and you are happy to having been able to find out why - you gave off some creepy vibe.

That is due to one or both of the following reasons which are closely connected to each other. You either were percieved to be of a low(er) status by her or you actually used some cringeworthy approach.

The higher your percieved status, the more you can get away with. i.e. if you are looking like Brad Pitt or are driving a Ferrari GTO, the more cringeworthy (and bold) you can become without hurting your chances with a girl.

We cannot tell which one of those was the main reason though since you didn't provide any details of the incident.

What I would do about that is just keeping to improve myself. Keep lifting. I'd also make a new post here detailing my approach and ask for reflections on what I did wrong.

The scond part is that you got ridiculed by your friend in front of all of your friends.

While I don't like that kind of behaviour it certainly is pretty common among people and especially men. He is trying to elevate his own status at your cost.

If you think about it, there is nothing really bad what happened. It's all in your head. You are insecure about yourself and are self-concious and that's why that stuff got to you. You also deep downknow that you are not at that point, where you percieve yourself to be of a higher status.

If you were more confident you couldn't give two shits about what some stupid bitch thought about your creepiness and your approach and you'd deal with it in that way.

So what would I do?

Again I'll be improving myself. Keep lifting. With improvement comes confidence.

I'd also have replied to the story via agree and amplify with what you used as the ridiculous situation that incident made it look like:

"Yeah. Maybe shouldn't have dragged her into a back alley and attempted to rape her."

Chances are your friends would have laughed about that and three days later everybody would have forgotten about the incident.

RedSkeller · 2016-08-05T12:31:09+00:00

It really doesn't matter either way. Don't even give it a second thought. She might have been saying it as bragging rights that she turned such an attractive guy down. Don't let anyone rustle your feathers over some petty shit.

oldredder · 2016-08-05T10:23:30+00:00

The issue was she told my friend that I "terrified" her when I approached her. Wtf? All I did was drop a compliment and ask for her number, she's making it sound like I dragged her into a back alley and attempted to rape her. So now I am mad at her.

This is girl-code for "that guy is too ugly to talk to me like a real man. I'm scared either he has no fear when he is too far below me, or that I am actually ugly and that's why an ugly man has no fear of flirting with me"

Wtf? If a girl said she was "terrified" of one of my friends, I would keep that to myself, not personally shame them infront of everyone.

This means they all agree with her and none of them respect you.

Has something like this happened to you before? What would you have done in my shoes?

The opposite happened to me. A girl asked me for my number but then she went on to just abuse it within hours and called my family and told them I got her pregnant (like that very day). She was decently hot too. Chicks at my highschool were fucking mental, a ton of 'em.

What I would have done is made sure there was more comfort, more reciprocation, some "excuse" / reason / context for the number, like it's already very clear she wants to hang out later, make out later, go on a date, so there's a reason for the number. You don't just get the number cold.

FrameWalker · 2016-08-05T12:41:15+00:00

she told my friend that I "terrified" her when I approached her. Wtf? All I did was drop a compliment and ask for her number, she's making it sound like I dragged her into a back alley and attempted to rape her. So now I am mad at her.

This is standard humble bragging circa 2016. Just like Tumblrinas brag about being raped and letting their periods run down their legs in the name of feminism, women in your social circles, who put their mouths on the dicks of your friends - which is frighteningly close to your own - will let everyone know how hot they are at every opportunity.

It's a three-fold reality distortion. 1. She broadcasts how desirable she is. 2. She pushes up her own SMV by parading around a top yours. 3. She avoids slut-shaming by pronouncing her loyalty to her new-found cock source.

Should you be pissed? No. Don't take it personally. This happens all the time whenever a girl for whatever unknowable reason turns you down. This rarely happens if your SMV is really really high but if it's within 2 points of hers you can bet on it.

my friend laughed when she told him this and then came and told this story infront of me and all our other friends and they all were laughing.

Joke's on him! He's already being manipulated. His ego is stroked, and she's pulling some of the strings. Really don't take it personally at all. If he knew how the game worked he would laugh at her and not you. Ignorance is bliss, let him enjoy it.

Am I overreacting? Has something like this happened to you before?

Yes! There was a girl I tried to plate within the first 3 months of TRP. ShMy game got her in my bed maybe 5 times but always hit hard LMR. I tried way too hard. She would hit on my roommate and flirt with him to try to get me to commit - even openly mocking me in front of him. I wanted either one of us to get laid and was so far in the anger stage I wasn't surprised or even displeased in the slightest. As my game progressed I wsas able to spin up a few other plates.

I remember one night she was cuddling on the couch with my roommate who had taken her on a long 6 hour date. I quietly snuck a girl out of my room while chatting them up, made myself a toasted english muffin and went to sleep. I kept my mouth shut. Neither of them knew how many plates I had going. That is the sweetest revenge - living well. No need to get mad - get good at game and lift.

Those 3 months of having this girl in my life are responsible for 70% of my game. Every week had 10-20 shit tests from her - and while I don't recommend to any guy that he allows such a woman to stay in his life - it's a helluva way to train - like goku in high gravity.

What would you have done in my shoes? Should I even continue to approach girls, not trying to have my entire reputation and self esteem ruined.

Agree and amplify and smile. It's not even an issue.

32643264 · 2016-08-05T16:21:19+00:00

keep approaching. why? because She's just a girl. who cares what the fuck she has to say. there are billions more. and in 2 days no one will even care because some new drama somewhere else will unfold.

let it roll off your shoulder.

thing is, there is nothing you can do about this situation except make yourself better. If someone makes a comment about it, agree and amplify, "oh yeah, ive made a shrine of her in my basement".

you cannot show people that this effects you. laugh it off. do not get emotional.

you got this. on to the next girl

also, your friends are just bantering with you. banter back

RedAsBlood · 2016-08-06T01:32:16+00:00

I think you are over-reacting.

Take it as an opportunity to improve yourself.

You need to be able to step back and laugh at yourself and be willing to accept feedback.

Something about your game or approach is creepy to women. Figure out what that is and change it.

Title	I'm pissed
Author	Daeron1Targaryen
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	August 5, 2016 5:18 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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