I'm very confused and am having a hard time dealing with everything, please help.

DKRises · 2014-05-04T07:48:40+00:00

The real true love in the movies doesn't really exist. At least not they way they show it. The relationship in movies can exist, but how the two people got there is fictional.

Movie Example: In a movie, it's the perfect setting, they fall for each other, the guy knows exactly what to say and the girl doesnt give a shit she wants him immediately. Also the sex is perfect.

Real Life Example: Guy is most likely using the same approach he's used on other women, attraction is probably dull from the woman's view at first until the guy looks appealing and builds attraction, sex is going to possibly be weird/funny the first time (if you get to that point), and you must always maintain frame.

Movie Example: Men break frame in the movies all the damn time and the women in the audience go awwwww and want to help him and the woman in the movie comforts and helps the guy.

Real Life Example: Breaking frame in real life and showing weakness, women go awww, but give no shits and ignore. Woman you're dating sees weakness and is more or less put off by it which lowers your standing and she may more than likely find someone else who doesn't break frame like a little girl.

TL;DR/Point being made: MOVIES ARE HORRIBLE REPRESENTATIONS OF LIFE.

sproondeermaan · 2014-05-04T22:49:37+00:00

One would have thought you would have read the sidebar in those few months: http://therationalmale.com/2012/09/10/men-in-love/ http://therationalmale.com/2011/12/27/women-in-love/

Acknowledge the feels, we all have them, but don't let them control you. Think. Think rationally.

Cryocasm · 2014-05-05T00:12:31+00:00

I used to want a movie romance, then I figured out that my impulses for physical closeness wouldn't (realistically) last for more than 12 hours, which means I set my mind on getting plates spinning.

I dropped the emotional romance thing 7 weeks ago.

I'm planning on getting my first plate spinning this Friday.

I endorse the Red Pill all the way. You are probably in a similar situation, you feel as if you can do all the high maint. bullshit to have some cuddling or similar physical closeness as seen in movies. But think to yourself, how much money will you put into the date and how long will you let her stay after you make her breakfast at your place? Chances are you have the same impulsive longing for a relationship and won't want to maintain it once it exists.

Spin plates, and if you are confident in wanting a longer or deeper relationship, then consider escalating a plate into an LTR.

LS_D · 2014-05-05T05:23:30+00:00

I've always wanted love. Real true love like in the movies.

dude! even you should know that the 'movies' are make believe!

darthcamronius · 2014-05-04T08:23:53+00:00

You sound like someone who needs a shrink.

Title	I'm very confused and am having a hard time dealing with everything, please help.
Author	darthcamronius
Upvotes	4
Comments	12
Date	May 4, 2014 7:20 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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