Interpret this behavior

MrBowlfish · 2016-10-31T17:11:56+00:00

Waiting for a girl to initiate is weakness in a man, demonstrating his need for validation. You have to do the pursuing. She is waiting to receive you, not the other way around. The test to know if she is interested is whether she allows you to escalate sexually. Male and female relations are just one giant dick slowly approaching a giant vagina. If the vagina allows the dick, she is interested. If not, not interested. No more complicated than that.

fnordsnord · 2016-10-31T17:24:33+00:00

Women initiate less often than men, and when they do, it's very subtle. Men often miss it.

So I would regard her failure to initiate as neutral. It tells me nothing about whether or not she's into you.

Further - if she usually agrees to a hangout when you initiate unless there are logistical issues, it is reasonably to assume that she is at least a LITTLE into you.

Yes, you are being petty by wanting her to initiate. That's YOUR job, not hers. Nexting her over this is up to you, but if you are going to insist that all your women initiate, you're going to miss a lot of dates/bangs.

If you've already had multiple hangouts, it's time for the kiss-close. Set up a hangout and try to kiss her. If you get the cheek or the duck, NEXT. If you get the kiss, isolate and escalate to the bang.

SexistFlyingPig · 2016-10-31T20:04:52+00:00

|A girl I'm trying to plate doesn't initiate...
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|... Is she letting me lead the relationship? Am I being ...

You're not in a relationship. You're plating a girl. They're not the same thing. You have to do the work, and it doesn't sound like you have any idea what you're doing.

Stoiky · 2016-10-31T21:55:38+00:00

It depends on the girl. I had once one plate that never initiated contact, I had to pay for almost everything and plan everything. However her interest level was super high. I could call her at 5 am and she would meet me and would fuck her all day if I wanted so. She would cook me breakfast give me foot massages while I was on Facebook texting other girls. She was completelly submissive. With a submissive girl you must be dominant and very pro-active!

BTW she had boyfriend and I plated for more than 6 months. Fucking terrific plate.

Cunt_Robber · 2016-11-01T01:22:26+00:00

If she agrees when you initiate that's all you need to recognize. The implied dynamic is that she's letting you lead. As long as she accepts this means she is interested. There is no neutral. There is either interest or dis-interest.

Yes, some of my plates initiate because they know I'm busy. It is appreciated and I never go back on my word once I agree to something, to let them know that I hold frame and I am confident in my decisions and that I follow through. Some plates do not initiate and this usually tells me they have options and that I should invest even less in them than they are in me (I tend to lose high maintenance plates easily as I don't have the time to play games or chase. If my SMV isn't high enough to keep them around I take an L) so I'll usually see what they're doing like a week in advance and try to set something up. If they happen to flake without a good reason, I get the hint. If they follow through though, keep going with whatever you're doing cause it means it's working.

And remember, they're just plates.

Title	Interpret this behavior
Author	Imarobot2
Upvotes	4
Comments	5
Date	October 31, 2016 5:03 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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