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Is cold approach bad?

FatmanO · 2018-07-31T21:47:39+00:00

Ive never got a plate or anyone before, what is my best bet as an 18 year old?...

FatmanO

July 31, 2018

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Title	Is cold approach bad?
Author	FatmanO
Upvotes	1
Comments	15
Date	July 31, 2018 9:47 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/93iss6/is_cold_approach_bad/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/is-cold-approach-bad.129065 https://theredarchive.com/post/129065

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If you are talking the London stuff you see where some dude chases down a girl on the street and puts his hand out to stop then spiel some canned "I know this is random..." then yes it is creepy and you will blown out 99 of 100 times.

But if you are talking about going about your day and chatting up girls in queue at the coffee shop, ice cream parlor or in line on the transit then cold approach is fine. Work on making yourself attractive\interesting to look at by your body or the way you dress, then start noticing girls that give you IOIs and you will get much better success at meeting some girls.

Honestly, I have been amazed recently by being "picked up" by girls in these situations and have missed a some opportunities because I simply couldn't believe that it was happening as it went down.....just so you know the girls will not actually start talking to you as men are expected to do but will indeed give subtle clues...such making eye contact even side glancing, hovering close to you with their body positioned openly toward you, smiling, taking up a position very close to you for no reason. I have been trying to improve my notice of these behaviors and test if I am right and it has amazed me how much better I have become in picking up on the clues...

Examples from this past week...
I was riding the shuttle to a car rental site when a young couple got on....well I notice repeated quick glances and just a feeling that the girl couldn't stop glancing toward me...if was really just more of a intuition than anything blatant......I wasn't planning on anything really but ended up in the queue very close to them when the guy went away to make a call so I simply said "hate waiting" and as I thought might be the case, she went bubbly and began talking about everything and anything..... she was just hoping and wishing that she was opened to meet me.

The other was girl at an ice cream shop where I stopped and when I walked in, we made eye contact and I noticed she couldn't break away for like 6sec. After I made my order, she positioned herself very close to me with her entire body pointed completely at me, even though she was interacting with her little sister. The shop was crowded and since I was waiting long after them...they had gone out but she was sitting on a nearby wall when I came out and when I started talking to her...again she went bubbly and we talked for a while then made plans for later in the week....again, she was interested but girls are not guys and will seldom just open you with banter.

So what I am saying is that make yourself attractive as possible and work on noticing when girls are finding you interesting then proceed to just talk to them.....often you will notice when you are getting better by the reaction of the girl...they will get antimated\bubby as if they relieved or excited that you made the connection to their signals.

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YES . cold approaching brings you out of your social comfort zone, so it is the equivalent of lifting weights for your social skills. just as the weights strain your muscles causing them to grow stronger, pushing your comfort zone causes your mind to grow stronger and your social intuition to improve.

once you start meeting girls through cold approach, you will realize most guys don't even have the balls to approach, you will think of yourself as higher than them and thus you begin to climb the social hierarchy ladder.....

even if you never get a girl through cold approach , you are improving, so that social circle game will be EASY. if you still have access to high school, its as easy as it gets xD

don't cold approach at your own school until you REALLY get the hang of cold approach and game tho... if you don't know what your doing yet, all you are doing is letting more people know you suck. once your the shit your letting more people know your the shit