Is it possible to improve yourself without going to the gym?

CeterusParibusOfc · 2017-08-05T04:50:13+00:00

No excuses, get a gym membership ASAP. There are no exceptions

returnofthemackX · 2017-08-06T13:44:35+00:00

This mentality makes me sick. Weak ass shit.

MusicSports · 2017-08-05T05:07:08+00:00

Get in the fucking gym or spend the later 50% of your life in constant pain with minimal mobility and strength. Eventually live your life in the cage that is your bed restrained by the shackles called your frail legs. Only using them occasionally to barely make it to the fridge.

Entropy-7 · 2017-08-05T07:43:08+00:00

Depending on what sort of a sorry sight you are to begin with, there are plenty of things that you can do within the space of a week to get an SMV bump: grooming, hygiene and wardrobe are the big three.

Take a serious look at your facial hair and that mop on your head to figure out what will work for you. Drop a bit of cash on a trendy salon that men patronize (not "unisex" and "bisexual" just seems wrong) and consult with the styist(s) before letting them go to work on you.

Consider "manscaping" plus deal with anything in your nose and ears that just doesn't belong.

Buy some decent men's toiletries and cosmetics (not "make-up" per se) including body wash, antiperspirant/deodorant, perhaps a facial scrub, good cologne (body spray is fine for day to day, but not for gaming), and if necessary something to deal with puffy eyes or black circles or greying hair/whiskers (unless the latter is the look you are going for). If you wear glasses, get a pair that work for you or else get some contact lenses.

Get some trendy or stylish clothes. If you are young there is probably a trendy place that - while not cheap - will not break the bank (back in the 80s when I was a teenager, that place was Le Chateau). If you are older, you are going to have to drop more cash. Don't forget about accessories: belt, shoes and watch. The latter two are basically a one-time investment that can last for many years, so don't skimp. Sunglasses in season. This is very contextual depending on the social circles you move/game in.

As an interlude, you should be hitting the gym or doing some form of exercise to get to a stage where you are neither skinny nor fat nor skinny-fat. If it's really not your thing, then don't aim to be a "specimen" or try to compete with jocks on their terms, but get down (or bulk up) to being average. . . without "quote marks". The thing is, further improvement without working out will take just as long if not longer than getting results from some disciplined diet and training (about 3 months).

Be well read on a variety of topics, a few of which come up regularly in social situations.

Have at least one hobby or build at least one skill that can be demonstrated in social situation a) generally b) as part of game in opening or c) incorporated into a date. Another one or two non-geeky hobbies or skills can compliment this (you don't have to be embarrassed about your Terry Pratchet or Star Wars action figure collections, but they don't count for these purposes).

Build social skills through toastmasters, the university debating/public speaking circuit, or discussion groups.

zyk0s · 2017-08-05T08:19:14+00:00

Sure, you can be crazy charismatic, or be so rich that you'll always have arm candy. The question you need to ask yourself is who do you want to be in life? And before you ask that question, realize that you live in a world very different from that of your ancestors, where physical exercise is not a part of normal life, it's something you have to actively pursue. Even men in professions that used to be physically demanding are now mostly operating machinery, and if your job is not physical in nature, it's pretty much a given your body is not operating the way it has adapted to operate for hundreds of thousands of years. By not exercising, you won't be who you're supposed to be.

And what are you really? Is 'you' just the mind, independent of the biology that sustains it and the body that makes it interact with the world? You know we're not blank slates, and if you already believe that it should be obvious that we also aren't just spirits inhabiting bodies of no consequence. If that's what you got from religious teachings, either they are wrong or most likely you didn't understand the message. Your physical fitness is not just some footnote in the story of your life, it is likely half if not more than half your being. Neglect it at your peril.

All_Ads_Deceive · 2017-08-05T17:26:49+00:00

Sounds like you want to act like a woman but be treated like a man.

addwater · 2017-08-06T14:53:55+00:00

The only excuse is if you're disabled. Hit the gym.

11006985 · 2017-08-05T05:35:41+00:00

I agree with a lot of the observations theredpill makes about women and life in general, but still these realisations do not motivate me to work on myself or do any form of self-improvement.

I see a lot of examples of AWALT, people being selfish individuals and ultimately only interested in what serves them best, the importance of conversational skills, etc in real life situations. Yet, I lack the motivation or self-discipline to do anything about myself.

A little bit about myself, I am underweight, skinny and small-build, around 5'7. I have some minor self-esteem issues and problems with feelings of depression. I rely on the belief that being a unique individual is enough to succeed. I do not want to rely on becoming swole and large to get girls, instead I want to be able to do it with the body that I have now and relying on things like humour or wit. Obviously, this hasn't worked out as I'm often times too timid and scared to approach girls, but my stubborness/denial does not want to believe it.

I have boiled down the problems I think I have:

1) My self-esteem issues comes from my skinny build. I feel weak and insecure, especially when talking to girls. Physically, I would consider myself quite above average but my skinny body gets in the way. I am not good in putting in a lot of work for an extended period of time, and am addicted to instant gratification, hence I cannot imagine myself putting in the effort to go to the gym. Which is why I compromise and try to come up with a way to become a more confident and attractive person without the physical improvements.

2) I'm addicted to porn. I can masturbate up to 3-4 times a day, and this has gone on for years now. I am only 21 years old but have started this habit since high school. It has gotten in the way of a lot of things and interferes with my day to day life.

3) I spent an excessive amount of time in my room. I often feel depressed and lack the motivation to do anything. I don't find as much pleasure as I once did in a lot of activities I do. Because I don't find pleasure in a lot of activities, it acts as a disincentive for me to do those activities. Things like sports, studying, reading feels boring and unrewarding. I would instead binge on tv series or youtube videos that gives me that instant fix of pleasure, no matter how miniscule.

Even as I type this up, I realise how introspective the words I write are, but the comfort of knowing these things effectively stops me from taking concrete steps that will actually solve a lot of the problems in my life. I am lost, and have been lost for quite some time. Any advice is appreciated.

Title	Is it possible to improve yourself without going to the gym?
Author	11006985
Upvotes	0
Comments	10
Date	August 5, 2017 3:55 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/6rponi/is_it_possible_to_improve_yourself_without_going/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/is-it-possible-to-improve-yourself-without-going.95309 https://theredarchive.com/post/95309

Comments