Is it possible to increase assertiveness/reduce agreeableness?

TRPNovice43 · 2019-08-17T14:44:38+00:00

This agreeableness thing seems to me a bit like overthinking. What they mean is have your boundaries, your set of morals, imbeded in stone. Let me give you some examples. Your girl wants to go to restaurant X but you hate it. Instead of complying and going just because she wants to, say it out loud that you don't want to go there.

Another example: Brian keeps asking to use your laptop although you need it for a project. Instead of giving the laptop to Brian so that you guys will be cool, tell Brian you need it. It is your laptop after all.

I hope this helps.

Madhatter747 · 2019-08-17T14:48:38+00:00

There's a critical period throughout childhood where our personalities are formed; kinda like a programming phase. After the period, its damn near impossible to alter as it's deeply deeply rooted in our subconscious. The main problem is that our media, TV, and authority figures/ teachers/ role models are all being feminized. What's been working for me, is avoiding the illuminati programming, tv, facebook ads 100% and spending my idle time only reading and listening to red pill; especially before bed. Its all about jamming this shit into your brain so god damn hard that it embeds itself into your subconscious and shows up in your personality organically. Essentially, you're trying to brainwash or "reprogram" yourself. However, if you constantly try to go through life, consciously thinking about what the "alpha" thing to do in this social situation is, you will surely fail. You must continue to pay attention to what matters, and ignore the feminism programming.

RedSkeller · 2019-08-17T14:53:33+00:00

Jordan Peterson videos have been helped me a lot. I’m setting serious goals for myself and taking responsibility. As I am now I feel like a child and I want to become a man. The problem is I’m a very agreeable person who searches for validation from others. I am a total pushover but I want to become someone who stands up for themselves and can pass shittests/set boundaries. Jordan Peterson makes it clear that disagreeableness is strongly correlated with success in all aspects of life.

The real question is: why are you seeking validation so desperately? Obviously there is an underlying cause. Until you work on that you will have great difficulty excelling at meeting women. You will be hamstrung by your lack of self confidence, so seek help and work on yourself in the meantime. No amount of false idol worship or videos will help you without EXPERIENCE and frankly, as a 21 year old virgin who is a self proclaimed 6'5 gym rat, you should have no problem building that.

Fresh_Pulse · 2019-08-17T18:35:35+00:00

First off, good job on realizing where you are in life, where you want to go, and what you think is holding you back from getting there. It sounds like you've actually taken action towards your goals, which should improve your assertiveness naturally over time.

Something that may help you is to identify scenarios in which you act too compliantly. When you find yourself in those scenarios, work on slowing down your manner of speech slightly so that you have more time to actually think instead of blurting out the first thing that comes to mind. A small pause before responding can help snap you out of a "Yes Sir!" mentality.

GonzMieato · 2019-08-17T19:29:40+00:00

yes, but you have to practice

SteveStJohn · 2019-08-17T19:51:26+00:00

Great start

Keep going in the direction you talked about.

Atheist_Utopia · 2019-08-17T15:01:32+00:00

[deleted] · 2019-08-18T03:43:43+00:00

Is it possible to increase assertiveness/reduce agreeableness?

Yes. NMMNG and WISNIFG will teach you the theory and practice of how to do this. That's why they're generally the first two books that people are recommended to read when they start learning about the RP praxeology.

Title	Is it possible to increase assertiveness/reduce agreeableness?
Author	grandorder123
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Date	August 17, 2019 2:14 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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