Hey guys, I am a recovering BP just getting into TRP. I have a lot to learn from you guys. I need your guys opinion on whether I am just being paranoid/insecure or I have legitimate reason to be suspicious.

  • I met my current LTR on Tinder. She had been ok it for a while and had dated/slept with guys from online dating before.

  • For two months she refused to delete her Tinder/OKC, claimed she never used it anyway. But a friend of mine saw her active many times on OKC, and she met me on Tinder. So she did use it to some extent. Was probably still talking to other guys.

  • Once I wad a bit tipsy. She said that "she was seeing another guy". I didn't understand since I was tipsy, and she went "oh you didn't even react. Once I understood I reacted, and she claimed she was just joking to see how I would react. Then she said it again a little while later. She maintained that she was 'joking'. Do you guys think this was trickle truth, or some sort of shit/other test.

  • Yesterday, I went over to her place. And texted her to let her know I was coming. She said that a coworker was at her place, but come over anyway. Once I got there a male coworker greeted me, and "joked" that "Hey, you caught us!" She claimed that was just his weird sense of humor and that he even suggested before I got there that "they should act like they were at it". She does work with mostly men, and I did see a box that she claimed he had come to drop off for work. She was supposed to take it to work the next day, but she doesn't have a car a commutes. He could have dropped it off at any other person's place with a car.

  • Do you guys think they have something? I had always suspected that her last ex was from work, but I have never brought it up with her.

  • She didn't give straight answers when I asked her "have you done anything wrong!" She claimed to not understand the question, and said she doesn't know what she did wrong and was sorry if she did.

These are just some red flags. Or are they? I am hoping you guys can give me some clarity as to if I should be worried or if I am just being paranoid and how to move forward. I won't be seeing her for a bit since she will be traveling for work today/ and spending weekend with friends, and next week with family.

She is mostly good otherwise. Last week she has been extra affectionate and we had been having sex every night. Except last night since we had this incident over the coworker.

Sorry for the rant.