Is N Count Important or Not?

quicklogaccount · 2017-10-27T17:16:37+00:00

N-count is an absolute deal breaker if any of the following is true:

It bothers you for some reason.

but I still find myself wondering how and why n count matters...and if hers would be considered high by trp standards.

It matters because it MIGHT:

Affect her ability to bond;
Increase the likeliness of her being an alpha widow;
Cause her to be delusional about her own worth and consequently nagging and impossible to please.

So if you're going out hunting for a chick to settle with you won't be going hunting on some CC rider's den.
BUT these are all problems with the "population". Once you're out with A given chick you're better off observing the presence of specific deal breakers that might piss you. As always, ALL you need to maintain is your ability to leave should things become shitty.

As for "is it high", her number is high and her behavior, "fucking around to prove herself", is a crazy insane red flag you missed. She associated her worth with being capable of seducing men, if she keeps this association she can't possibly keep a relationship because she'll feel worthless inside one.

just wondering if dating someone with that high an n count is risky

Dating someone with a high n-count or dating a virgin are both risky if you're prone to develop a bond of need with the person and catch yourself tied and unable to end a bad relationship. That's how you get abused.

While the way you talked about the whole thing and your very worries about committing or not kind of hint that you're at this risk and seeking to minimize it instead of purging your weakness (this is a stupid, stupid strategy), your profile isn't one of a weak guy that will get abused in a relationship. I suppose you're cool, but you know you though.

Is she worth all the new chicks you're not banging by "wasting" time with her and not going to bang if you commit?
I gotta tell you, I CAN lay one new chick a week that meets my standard, my best streak ever was 4 in two weeks (while spinning a plate, which made it five different chicks). I committed to a chick because she happened to enjoy some very uncommon things I enjoy, has a pussy that performs magic on my cock, is ALWAYS up for sex and is REALLY low maintenance. I give the first aspect there a very high weight and the last one makes it a lot easier for her to make herself worth the hassle, and still she barely makes up for all the chicks I'm not meeting.
I think if I could "get laid any day of the week" she'd have to be a 9 and be cool with threesomes for me to consider it.

FlyingSexistPig · 2017-10-27T21:19:59+00:00

She's 25 and claims an N count of 25. Assume the usual trickle truth and it's more like 50. She's had 50 guys run through her.

Is this the best you can do?

AlphaGrad · 2017-10-27T17:20:26+00:00

That's predator posing as a house pet. Just plate her.

F_Dingo · 2017-10-27T23:23:06+00:00

Is credit score important when considering someone for a loan?

You said yourself that you're grossed out by her number which is probably double, triple, or maybe even quadruple of what she's telling you. Trust your gut and make a decision. If there's one thing you should remember it's that you can't turn a slut into a house wife.

ScottDurden · 2017-10-27T16:47:25+00:00

If she's telling you it's in the 20's it very well could be in the 30's or even 40's.

Personally lay count doesn't really matter to me. I always keep the frame it doesn't matter what her lay count is because I'm the best she's ever fucking had.

staanje · 2017-10-27T17:04:25+00:00

Too many red flags for an LTR for me personally. Sounds like a great plate though! Enjoy either way!

SpinPlates · 2017-10-28T01:15:01+00:00

Anyone that doesn't think N count matters is naive as fuck.

I'm 26 with an N count in the 60s and my outlook on women now is way more bleak than it was when my N count was in the 20s. It blatantly ruins your ability to pair bond.

I spun plates in my early 20s to pass the time until I found an LTR worthy girl... That's a fucking joke now. I have plates in my roster that guys would trip over them selves to wife up and I just can't see the positive in an LTR anymore.

This absolutely works the same way for women exepct when she's finally hit her peak level of value she's going to seek a beta provider. don't be that provider

askmrcia · 2017-10-27T17:54:36+00:00

Lets forget about the N-Count and red flags. Lets just focus on the green flags.

Great relationship with her family and dad/very family oriented. Family is conservative as well.

This should be a default. Its sad that this is considered a green flag now a days. You know how easy it is for girls to maintain a fake relationship with their family?

Cooks and cleans and does nice things without being asked or expected. Very dedicated.

Again a default. And she does nice things for you because she's attracted to you at the moment. This is nothing special. Sooo sounds like you're desperate for a chick to give you some attention every now and then.

Somewhat submissive. Wants to be led and guided rather than shit testing and trying to constantly do her own thing.

Uh huh, you mean live pretty much every chick at first site?

Cut contact with all orbiters. Does not go out for drinks or dinner with other guys. No contact with exes. Does not go to clubs or go out and get hammered because she knows that I look down on girls who do that don't do that, she just knows I don't think a girl who does that is a quality girl.

Uh huh, sure she did. So what does she do for fun or in her free time?

Look there is nothing you listed that makes her seem LTR worthy. This is just based on the green flags alone. I'm not even counting her long list of dicks that's been inside her. Does she bring any value to her life? Does she have any goals that compliment yours? Does she do anything of value for both herself and you?

She literally brings nothing to the table. Why are guys like you so damn thirsty to wife these hoes up?

I mean wow, she cooks and cleans. You're a cuck. I hate to insult people on this sub, but this is true cuck behavior. You're playing captain save a ho. I don't care if this chick slept with just one guy before you. There is nothing special about her.

HappyMexican · 2017-10-27T17:51:27+00:00

Had an on and off 5 year relationship with an abusive ex bf that ended about a year and a half ago. He was very abusive emotionally and basically made her feel like she was worthless and nobody but him would ever want her (note that I've dated seriously crazy chicks before, and she has exhibited zero crazy that would lead me to believe this could cause me problems in that department, but listing it as a red flag in general anyway)

Ugh Red flag yes, but I wouldn't believe her to much here. If she has sex regularly with you, and shows no side effects she probably wasn't abused that bad.

Remember women love to play the victim of the last relationship, in a new relationship. If you break up with her I am sure she will be saying the same thing about you next guy she has sex with. Freaking clock work and retarded how women do this shit. You spend 99% of the time doing everything right and all they remember is the 1%.

This and "I was sexually abused as a teen/kid, but don't remember it too well" are the number 1 things I hear from girls I dated.

dontbedenied · 2017-10-27T17:52:12+00:00

If you're asking the question, it obviously bothers you. I've tried enough LTRs with girls with high N counts to know it's not worth the headache for me anymore. Plate her and have very low expectations, and certainly don't expect her to be loyal to you. There's a reason why girls like her wind up with abusive guys.

RampageElephant · 2017-10-28T06:03:21+00:00

Whenever a girl talks about her ex-bf tell her to shut the fuck up coz you dnt care

FvckYourSafeSpace · 2017-10-27T17:57:54+00:00

Dude you sound like a Pussy developing oneitis and you care way too much. You need to not be in an LTR and become more of a man. As far as not getting the best sex, you probably aren’t and it’s probably your own damn fault.

Title	Is N Count Important or Not?
Author	ncountquestion
Upvotes	5
Comments	39
Date	October 27, 2017 4:41 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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