Is she cheating?

SeasonedRP · 2020-01-13T15:44:36+00:00

Not only did she not invite you to Jeff's party, she didn't even tell you about it until you asked her to do something else that day. It sure sounds like a monkey branch attempt to me. I'd withdraw attention and start talking to other girls. This one's pretty much out the door.

Psychological_Radish · 2020-01-13T15:41:48+00:00

Whether or not she's cheating is irrelevant. God thought genuine desire was important enough to put "thou shalt not covet" right up there with actual adultery. She's obviously lost that desire, if she ever had it at all. Let's walk through this.

She is talking medication that messes with her when she drinks.

What kind of medication? For what? Stop wifing up girls with health problems, mental or otherwise. Those problems rapidly become your problems.

Goes out with law school friends.

There's only one reason to go out with her friends and not invite you: so she can find a replacement for you. The medium is the message here.

I text her she doesn't respond. I text her again saying hey just let me know if you're ok cuz of the meds, nothing. I call her, nothing.

Jesus Christ this is so cringe. Are you sure you're Red Pill? Not double texting is basic shit, guy. This is a beginner level Beta mistake.

I ask why she didn't invite me.

Gag.

She agrees and apologizes.

But she still didn't invite you and still plans to go. So she clearly isn't very sorry.

Thoughts?

You come off as an extremely needy Beta throughout this post, so my assessment is that this relationship is already beyond saving. You need to soft next this girl. Today. Even then I'd start preparing for her to dump you. Read the sidebar ASAP.

askmrcia · 2020-01-13T15:32:48+00:00

You know the answer, she's going to another dudes birthday party and not invited you, and your behaviour is making you look weak/beta in her eyes. I mean you're asking for help on a redpill forum when you've double texted a girl and then phone called after no answer....!!! I honestly don't know what you're expecting, you need to get lost in the side bar and come back when you've got some red pill going on inside you

KaRzual · 2020-01-13T15:49:03+00:00

My name is Jeff.

BrandanTech · 2020-01-13T15:56:32+00:00

This is the issue with LTRs so early in life.

See, your GF has now found someone who has lots of potential and has life goals in common with hers. If Jeff is a red pill male, it’s a done deal he fucked her but...if he’s not, he may not know to capitalize on what he has.

The other issue is that your girlfriend is in that stage of creating herself. She’s in law school and will graduate to become a lawyer but that’s not easy. There’s lots of stepping stones to becoming a highly paid lawyer and lots of climbing the ladder.

You’re going to get thrown to the side eventually. It’s 100% inevitable. Just enjoy the time you have together now and be happy in the present. If she cheats, she cheats.

efukt-xhamster · 2020-01-13T15:39:07+00:00

Kinda seems like you answered your own question there did she cheat? Coulda, did she? You doubt it. So trust it.

As for the other part, just make that clear you want info if she makes plans like that.

HurricaneHugues · 2020-01-13T18:29:15+00:00

Jeff doesn't have to be better looking than you. He just has to be different. Overconfidence and underestimating the opposition have been the leading cause of the downfall of many great men. All you do is rag on her university friends and kaw students. You underestimate them. Wouldn't it be ironic for her to cuck you with one?

You weren't invited to this guy's party for a reason.

2030isCloserThan2003 · 2020-01-13T15:50:49+00:00

I wouldn’t say that it’s a 90% chance she’s cheating (a little absurd since it’s it’s 1 private friends party), but there are definitely red flags there. She may be attracted to Jeff, or is wanting to see her options (after losing some attraction to u before for whatever reasons), or she is a lowkey alcoholic that doesn’t admit her addiction issues to you.

There are many reasons why she may be going, but it’s her responding super late & doing everything to convince u to not go to a party with her is filled with red flags.

You have 0 proof that she is cheating other than if u have a friend u know at the party that can verify, or texts of hers, so U can’t jump to conclusions. But I’d definitely stop giving her as much attention, focus on improving yourself, act busier, & talk to other women Incase this shit hits the fan soon.

CaptainKidd96 · 2020-01-13T17:24:26+00:00

Whenever there is any doubt, there is no doubt.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-01-13T20:48:17+00:00

You're the prize here. You're the Lord of the kingdom.

She's acting pretty damn disloyal which makes her unqualified to be chief advisor and head concubine to the king.

Don't allow her entrance to your castle Ignore her messages. Deny her the bounty of your kingdom.

Find other women and promote one of them to be one of your advisors. There are many good women in your kingdom. Find one who is more loyal and knows how to respect her Lord.

BlackMonkey14 · 2020-01-13T17:01:07+00:00

Sounds pretty highschool tbh. I’m seeing a lot of things I wouldn’t explicitly forbid but not a lot that would indicate cheating. She may or may not be, I go to parties all the time and don’t hear or feel my phone when I’m at a bar most of the time.

Based on the way you’re thinking though, you need to take a step back and chill for a bit. Doesn’t mean you have to break up with her, just stop initiating contact.

Truedemocracy6 · 2020-01-13T17:11:25+00:00

The texting while she is out depends on the intervals. Do you do it often? Is this something you do regularly? This likely comes across as needy and a turn off. “But her medication!!”. She’s with friends, if she got sick they’d reach out to you or help her. Don’t need to hold her hand everywhere

As for the party and her friends you might need more tact in how you handle talking about them. Calling anyone a SJW in real life is pretty cringe inducing, but that’s just me. Good chance they are driving a wedge between you two though.

Doesn’t sound like cheating at all. Insecurity, and maybe breakening of the relationship

un_knownguy · 2020-01-13T17:47:44+00:00

"I text her she doesn't respond", and this is where everything went downhill, you should be the guy that doesn't respond, not her.

I personally do not like to ignore people's messages on purpose, but I do not send texts more than once.

Also just the fact of posting this question seems insecure and like you don't have other options available, stop talking to that girl and focus on yourself, that relationship is already past respect limits, under any circumstances you should accept disrespect, and if she apologizes she should apologize with sex, that's the only apology you should take from her.

T-P-T-W-P · 2020-01-13T19:08:28+00:00

OP don’t take “she’s definitely cheating or monkey branching” to the bank but certainly don’t disregard that possibility either. AWALT is a generally applied term, it doesn’t always hold true and each chick is invariably different to some degree. As with most things on the internet, it’s impossible to provide all the nuanced details surrounding any given situation. My roommates and I host some house parties throughout the year and a fair amount of hot chicks come without their boyfriends, whether through friends, platonic relationships, etc. Most of them don’t actively try to branchswing or get dicked down, at least noticeably. Are chicks that go to parties without their boyfriends more likely to cheat? Of course that’s a yes, but I still don’t understand why some on here think it’s highly likely or guaranteed (although I do take for granted that many find this sub through past negative experiences of this sort). The truth is you could be over analyzing this and nothing is going on, and that she has remained perfectly honest with you, or that she’s been getting dicked down on the side since you’ve started seeing her and you’re just none the wiser. Regardless of what you say, both of those are absolutely possibilities and you can’t be certain of anything, it’s up to you to continually assess the likelihood of various outcomes to your dilemma. Just keep a strong frame and use common sense the way a self respecting man would.

ProtoplasmGladiator · 2020-01-13T20:06:23+00:00

She's not yours, it's just your turn, you're in the end times buddy.

The real question why aren't you talking to more girls while this is going on?

Title	Is she cheating?
Author	beantownclown
Upvotes	2
Comments	37
Date	January 13, 2020 3:25 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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