And by that I mean is there any realistic chance of finding romantic success and/or happiness for me? Please be candid, as I no longer wish to continue living if there are only fool's hopes and distant dreams.
25 M, USA, finishing STEM degree. Like all of you I came on here to help my complete lack of romantic/sexual success.
I've been implementing all of TRP's prescriptions. Powerlifting, reading in my spare time, being more social, BJJ practice and tournaments, etc. Clothing, grooming, appearance all as good as ever, tho not that it's helped if it can't change my dweeb personality.
Been asking out girls, strangers and acquaintances. A few flakes but mostly just turned down. Been on Tinder/Hinge/etc, and gotten quite a number of girls swiped and flirted with, but zero goddamn phone numbers. Pretty sure I'm doing some things right with pictures and gaming, but it has led to exactly zero concrete results.
I even quit porn completely. It should be good in that it'll cure my PIED (despite it being years since I've had a girl to disappoint) . . . but it has only made me feel worse in the short term, and even in the long term, who knows how many months it'll take, if ever, that my cock will even work properly.
Obviously my struggles with severe depression and anxiety have made things more difficult. But I've been getting professional treatment, even if fixing poor self esteem and lack of self love/compassion is tricky. I'm legitimately trying to take care of my body and health and mind, even when I don't like myself.
Even if magically I do succeed and/or find happiness, what is there to hope for? A life where, as TRP reminds me, every damn woman is liable to lie to me and cheat on me. Great. Maybe there isn't even a happy scenario possible here.
Anyway, are there any remaining things possible to change that'll bring results/improvement/happiness? I'm done with living for vague notions of "someday it'll be better." Thanks in advance for your comments.
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