Lots of info so I’ll do my best to keep in short. A year and a half ago I met this chick as a customer of mine. She’s 10 years older and divorced. Has a Doctorate in Pharma, make 400k a year, the whole 9. We really hit it off together and hung out that weekend. Stayed at the bars till two AM, and kissed her on the porch. Hung out a few times after, went to concerts and such, and somewhat slowly escalated along the way (this was b4 I was RP).

One day she lets me know she wanted to be friends, I said ok, and basically ghosted her. She hit me up to hang and as we got talking she said she met this guy on the plane and were hanging out/dating which was reasoning for friendzone. He was a pretty cool dude I had met a couple times since that announcement.

Fast forward to two weeks ago, we plan to meet for cocktails as I hadn’t seen her since early December. She drops the bomb that this guy ghosted/cheated her on New Years. Possibly Alpha Widow, but I don’t have all the info. I really try my best at deflecting emotional punching bag questions saying to ask her girlfriends about the breakup or whatever and that I’m not good with this kind of advice. But we leave on a good note as always and she wanted to make me brunch on the weekend.

On to brunch, I help her hang a few wall pieces and we have a good time eating with cocktails at her place. She starts to learn that I’ve been seeing a few girls myself and haven’t committed to one girl. She tended to joke around with that, saying that you’ll break these girls hearts, insinuating that I’m a player etc. I joke about how she’s starting her hoe phase as she tells me these hinge dates she’s started to go on (she tells me they’re all bad dates too). I’m still getting bombarded with emotional punching but am still deflecting or changing the subject to keep off her alpha widow.

So I guess given the situation, do I have a chance at rekindling a plate/fwb outcome with her. We broke the touch barrier again aside from hugs, so that’s kinda where I’m at. I’m not sure how to escalate if I may be labeled as a friend at this point. She’s showing signs of hitting the wall hard. And said she doesn’t want to hookup with these guys she goes on dates with etc.

Edit: she has brought the age gap a few times and I always joke around with it saying shit like “wdym we are the same age?” And shit like that.

Also recently she has mentioned of her guest room being furnished soon so that if I get drunk at her place I could have somewhere to spend the night