Hi all,

I've (26M) been in an LTR (23F) for 4 years now. Sex is great, we get adventurous etc. However, we've never involved anyone else. She's been incredibly insecure in the past, even with things like porn or when she's caught me quickly checking a girl out.

In the past she has said that she likes to imagine me going at it with another woman, but she wouldn't want me to in real life. I understand that she likes to see me as desirable by other women and enjoys the imagination of me being so animalistic.

Recently she's said she's wanted it irl. Because she was feeling and about herself at the time I questioned if she wanted it because she's feeling insecure and she's hoping that I'd do that with another girl and still come back to her, to make herself feel more special. It's worth noting that she's the only woman I've ever been with. She agreed that it could it be that.

Now she just told me that one of her new friends, who I've not met yet, asked to get into a threesome with us because "she wants to feel what I make her feel". She told me that she likes that she wants me and she wants to see it.

I obviously like feeling desired, even though it's based on her description of me rather than meeting me. The idea of guilt free, even encouraged, sex does excite me.

I can't tell if this is genuine and she is actually excited about it, or if this is some kind of test that I'd fail if I agree or seem too eager about it. I don't know if this is something that she thinks she wants but once she sees me doing it she won't be able to handle it.

Even if everything is good on her end, I have some concerns of my own. I've had ED and was premature at times (no porn and no fap is helping). I'm also a small guy. Her being tiny meant that sometimes I can be a bit big for her but mostly it's just right, but idk how I'll be with other women.

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I'd like to hear your thoughts on my situation, thanks.