I've never been to a gym before, help.

wallpunchist · 2016-11-29T11:46:12+00:00

Where's that IDGAF mentality you are supposed to develop at asktrp?

People care about you less than you imagine and even if someone were to judge you, who gives a fuck? If some idiot decides to judge you based purely on your looks, how shallow he must be?

Shamlei · 2016-11-29T12:04:37+00:00

Months ago I entered the gym as a fatty.

Yesterday I went out as a skinny fat.

In a year I'll be getting out ripped.

Did people judged me when they saw that fat kid who couldn't even do a single push up struggling just to maintain good form with 15kgs deadlifts ?

Did they look at me wrong when I tried training my arms and my left arm couldn't even lift 6kgs without shaking ?

Did they stop me when I tried the squatting rack for the first time when I didn't even have the knowledge required to make one squat with good form ?

We all judge people, someone started lifting in my gym a bit after I came, around 35 years old male, fat and sweating like a pig on the treadmill.

I unconsciously judged him and thought he would not stay long, well couple weeks ago I saw him again at the gym on the bench and he looked pretty fit now.

You will get judged, because as of right now you are nothing, embrace it, learn from it, months from now you'll still be judged, as the scrawny white kid who stuck to working out and now has a somewhat pleasant looking physique.

Also don't tell others you're lifting, just going to get put down by the crowd, let them come to you, let them tell you that something has changed with you, then drop a slight "Yeah i've been lifting a bit".

Seriously that moment when a girl comes to you and tells you that and you just answer nonchalantly is priceless, growing up as a fat kid and not getting any girl attention it was the first time I knew I was on the right path with my life.

Tl;dr : You're already getting judged by everybody, as you're nothing right now, if you're going to get judged by people might aswell be it with lust and envy in their eyes.

Igaunija · 2016-11-29T14:05:11+00:00

People will judge you, sure. But you shouldn't care about that shit. I used to judge fatasses in the gym then I realized, that they are trying and I respect that. Everyone has to start from somewhere and anyone that tries to better themselves in some way has earned my respect, however small it may be.

GayLubeOil · 2016-11-29T11:57:01+00:00

Binge watch as meany videos as you can from Ben Pakulski. Try some basic shit out. Then find a professional bodybuilder and say "Wow your X muscle is really big what exercises do you do?"

Then the bodybuilder will help you usually because he likes compliments and needs to feel like he is a positive member of society and not a well oiled barbell lifting machine that runs on chicken and rice.

Iv been doing this since I was your age so basically 10 years.

BPasFuck · 2016-11-29T14:11:55+00:00

I'm just going to pile on and echo the others:

Yes. There will be judgement. But, it will be significantly less than what you get from garden variety broads in your day to day.

Gym folks are by and large less cunty, because they all know the struggle is real, and most of them have started as fat asses or beanpoles themselves.

Garden variety basic bitches on the other hand, will be judgy and unaware.

Your job is to fight through all of that shit, and getting through whatever judgement you might find at the gym, will give you great practice for getting through the judgement of basic bitches.

Good luck!

mrpCamper · 2016-11-29T15:10:38+00:00

Most people won't judge you. Some will. Not a coincidence that the ones that judge are the assholes. There are assholes everywhere. You can't get around it. So, there will be assholes at the gym who will judge. But, you can't go around living your life based on what assholes will say or do.

There will be nice and helpful people there too. Probably significantly more of them than of the assholes.

hamsterbator · 2016-11-29T16:22:59+00:00

bro we mostly judge those that don't go to the gym. Make it a habit and you will quickly learn the ropes and make gains.

[deleted] · 2016-11-29T18:18:45+00:00

The gym community is very accepting and helpful regardless of the popular belief that meat heads are self centered and douchey. I guess they are sometimes...but almost nobody in the gym really gives a fuck about you or what weight is on the bar. You don't make fun of the homeless guy looking for a job do you? Same thing in the gym. Everyone is there for the same reason.

MattyAnon · 2016-11-29T18:19:44+00:00

will I get judged by people in the gym

Not relevant, stop being weak. You'll be left alone, you'll be physically safe. That's all you need to worry about. The thoughts of others? Literally who fucking cares.

But really - noone cares, they're only interested in themselves.

Anyone who is good will respect you for trying.

But really, NOT FUCKING RELEVANT.

machimus · 2016-11-29T21:59:21+00:00

will I get judged by people in the gym, who see me, a scrawny white kid, lifting probably only 1% of what they can do?

No. Everyone starts somewhere. None of the jacked guys in the gym were jacked before they started lifting a long time ago. They were skinny or fat or skinnyfat. Anyone who makes fun of you is an asshole, and they're not common.

Besides, what are you going to say to a skinny guy? Go to the gym? You're already there.

Title	I've never been to a gym before, help.
Author	Shrimpy_
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Date	November 29, 2016 11:42 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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