Long story short, I was raised in a very strict religion where sex before marriage is forbidden. Its very hard to learn to escalate or even just be comfortable around girls because you're always being watched by the elders of the congregation. Anyway, I became better at it when I initially left, but because of laziness and apathy due to depression, I've slipped back into my nice guy ways.

I've slept with two girls recently and didn't fuck them. Just making out and fooling around, but I can't seem to escalate. Lots of girls are recently saying shit like 'youre so nice,' and 'everyone loves you.' Which is great but at the same time I feel like I'm growing a vagina. I want to go back to when girls were calling me a player and chastising me for ignoring certain girls I didn't wanna talk to. I didn't like being labelled a player, but it fucking beat being called a nice guy who girls love to hang out with but don't seem to wanna fuck. What can I do to turn this around?