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[–]Endorsed Contributorfnordsnord5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
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[–]muzn12 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks! Nice to get an actual helpful comment :)
[–]MusicSports3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You haven't fucked her. She isn't a plate. She's a girl that's fucking the shit out of somebody else right now and begging for them to cum on her face and in her mouth so she can swallow it, while also trying to get pregant with their kids without them knowing.
If you had other plates you wouldn't care.
[–]muzn1-1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like you got cheated on or something and you hate girls. Im allowed to ask for advice for one plate aren’t I?
[–]MusicSports1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's a female cop out insult you're using to deny the reality of your situation and avoid taking responsibility. "/u/Musicsports must be jaded and fucked up because I'm not asking for advice I just want people to tell me I'm doing things right." I don't hate girls. I'm rational. Nowadays looking at things as they are without giving a girl the benefit of the doubt is seen as misogyny.
Of course you're allowed to ask anything. I'm trying to educate you. A plate is a girl you've already fucked at least twice who is down to go again. A one night stand is someone you've fucked once regardless of if they want to fuck again or not. A girl you've kissed and flirted with but can't fuck is a girl that's getting her sexual needs filled elsewhere and is deciding if you should take that responsibility or not and needs more plausable deniability. If this happens over 3+ dates you're officially an orbiter. If you haven't had sex in a long time and really wanted to and a hot girl was begging you to fuck her, you'd fuck her. You wouldn't say, "no not on the first date." She is getting her sexual needs filled and therefore has the abundance mentality needed to say "no thanks" to you. You don't have this abundance mentality because you're already assuming you won't meet another girl you're capable of fucking in the next month and a week and instead want to keep this girl interested through text messages and pictures. The point is you should be working on yourself enough to know that you're hot enough to pick up another girl instead of working on one through your phone for over a month while she is busy fucking someone else over that month and a week. Do you think she gives a fuck about keeping you interested in her? She's not your plate. She is a girl that said no to sex with you.
[–]room_3031 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You cant. Especially now that she has 5 jock men ready to fuck a swipe away, social proof by the 100's and beta orbiters by the 1000's on Facebook.
[–]jb_trp0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't mate guard or be too available. That's beta AF.
Enjoy your life and have the best 3 weeks possible. Does she follow you on IG? Occasionally post something if she does that shows you're having a good time and increases your value. Answer her texts when she reaches out, but not too quickly (read: you should be busy).
When you're back, organize a meetup. Don't worry, she's probably not getting married within the next 3 weeks. And date other chicks.
[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
We’re talking a little but im keeping it to a minimum
Good.
My question is, how can I maintain her as a possible plate/fb while im on holiday?
you can't and shouldn't try.
she should be terrified of losing you, not feeling like you're trying to make it work with her
[–]BestSC860 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
So you have spent your 5 week holiday obsessing over this girl you haven't even fucked once back at university?
Think she is doing the same?
Think about that for a while....yeah, you want to keep this one-it-is girl as a plate\fb....riiiiiiiight <>|<>
[–]muzn10 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Who said anything about obsessing? Not to mention university?? I dont care what shes doing and even if I didnt want her as a fb why does this bother you so much?
[–]throwaway_698610 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ooooohhh fuck. I never realized oneitis was one-it-is!
[–]rawblackman-1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
already "blew it" on night one.
If you went in then, she would know what she is expecting and be more open for a repeat after x amount of weeks
[–]muzn10 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Thats your opinion, ill be sure to message you when she blows me.
[–]APtema 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Itd be disappointing if you do follow through with that. You have nothing to prove to faceless internet strangers.
[–]Self-honest0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Good luck. The fact that she invited you back to her place and gave you LMR that you failed doesn't help your cause. I would send her a maximum of one message then let her initiate contact when you get back.
[–]muzn10 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Didnt fail anything, when we got back she pretty much passed out cause we were out with friends drinking. Wasnt going to fuck a girl sleeping
[–]Self-honest0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Tried to escalate but she said not on our first date.
Your OP says otherwise. She didn't invite you back to her place to "sleep" on your first date.
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