Low confidence I think

Wolveryn · 2018-12-05T15:15:43+00:00

Ok here’s the best tangible tip that worked for me.

I watched a lot of shows with successful alpha males (some debateable).

But I remember taking the nonchalant character from the tv series Californication ‘Hank moody’ played by David duchovny and admiring his charm with women, and I started refining the persona with how i spoke with women, and it helped immensely... I was still me, but I just had a kind of different baseline to work from to help get over approach anxiety... even hank who was extremely good with women would get rejected but he handled with such aloofness and calmness... so I adopted the mindset... I still use this technique for situations like in the workplace where I also borrow from other guys in the office who are respected and successful

legospartan · 2018-12-05T16:23:11+00:00

Sounds like your self conscious of failure. You don’t want to say the wrong thing, make the wrong move. It’s normal but don’t let it control you.

Personal opinion is you develop a “I don’t give a fuck” attitude, approach with this in mind. Say it in your head and mean it, it’s not about the outcome of the conversation it’s about making banter then capitalizing on that interaction.

Just don’t give a fuck

GirTheRobot · 2018-12-05T19:19:01+00:00

Abundance mentality will help with this. And I understand you're living in the reality of a scarcity mindset, but think about it this way: When you go out, and talk to women (try it and do it, at bars, coffee places, wherever), think to yourself "There are a lot of women here, if I fail with this one, or if I don't like her that much, I'll just talk to another one." It's pretty freeing. Then apply that to how many women are in your city, and you start to care a lot less.

It all takes practice. Agree and amplify everything. Hold frame. Practice agree/amplify and holding frame on your coworkers. Treat every social interaction like a shit test unless it's obviously not.

whatdidshewrite · 2018-12-05T15:27:30+00:00

TRP in a nutshell is about making your life important enough for you not to worry much about having a girl

Title	Low confidence I think
Author	Coregod109
Upvotes	5
Comments	15
Date	December 5, 2018 3:10 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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