Whenever she tells me her feelings I mirror, label, and fog. Nothing really gets through. she continues to talk about how she’s feeling and she doesn’t stop until she feels better.

This particular time is about how she feels I don’t prioritize her. She’s been away for a bit and coming back May 2 (it’s not an LDR she was visiting fam). She’ll be staying with me the next couple weeks. We are both busy the weekend of the first and the 8th. I made plans with friends for the 15th (we go out to eat once a month and that’s the date that worked for all parties). Her point is that the 15th is the first weekend we can spend together to go on a date and celebrate her new job (which is an awesome opportunity for her and she really earned it as her last job sucked). She starts the 17th. Because I made plans she’s upset I didn’t prioritize that day for her.

I don’t think it’s a big deal if we celebrate the the weekend after but she obviously does. How do I go about making her feel understood bc fogging, labeling, open ended questions, and mirroring don’t work. Ignoring and being cold only escalates it. This isn’t a plate so please refrain from such advice applicable to them.