Longtime lurker, ill keep it concise. Been in seduction for a while, kept up with girlschase and heartiste mostly. Currently in an LTR, first one since 6 years ago. Had a long string of plates in between. Running into a problem with this current ltr that irks me. Shes not a submissive one. I mean she submits to me sexually, sex nearly every day, anal once in a while when shes up for it, blowjobs/handjobs if shes not feeling like having sex that day.

She also submits to me outside of the bedroom about 60-70% of the time, like doing sweet things for me, cooking for us, laundry, etc.

Our situation is a unique one, we met backpacking in australia and we are traveling new zealand together now for a year. Her n count is at 3, im her third. Luckily enough, she au paired her way through australia staying with host families and had just lost her virginity two weeks before she left for australia.

Anyways, we live in the same room, with a queen sized bed, in a hostel. I know to never shack up with a bitch but I wanted the experience of traveling together with a girl.

Currently, im running into two issues: 1) A dominance issue. She is definitely less submissive than almost every other girl ive been with in the past. She’ll do little things that irk me. For example lets say were in a park, and were trying to get back home, ill say lets go to the right path to get back, then she’ll be like “no lets go to the left path”. Since both paths lead home, ill just say whatever and go on the left path, since i have no preference. Or if I say baby, can you grab the water bottle from the room, when were both sitting outside and both an equal distance from the room, she’ll say “no, you go get it, were both the same distance.” Or Ill say lets cross the street here but she’ll say “no, lets cross the street a bit further down.” Or sometimes she just tries to take the lead saying “lets cross here,” and ill be like cool. In the back of my mind, i know i can take the lead back so ill let her lead here and there. Anyways, is this ok? It still irks me, doesnt feel right, almost feels emasculating. How can I get her to sumbit to my will and way fully?

  1. a sexual issue. I do have some dread running in the background, so she doesnt deny me sex most of the time. But ive been running into the odd day where she doesnt want sex. Id say once a week atleast, sometimes twice. Usually she’ll have a bullshit excuse like a stomach ache, or headache. Then she’ll change it to “wanting to give her pussy a break” since we fuck every day. Or she’ll just say shes not horny. Anyway to alleviate this? I think its because we see each other everyday and sleep in the same bed, but I do have girl friends I see and theres some dread coming from that. In addition, when i met her in australia, i was known as a player at the hostel we stayed at. I slept with a few girls in there, and she knew them as well. Also part of the same issue, I wanted to finger her in the movie theatre but she wasnt comfertable with it. ive tried two more times in the theatre but each time she said she didnt want to. Am I expecting too much? Shes never done something like that before, or is it some other issue?

I know people have it way worse than this, but im trying to learn what keeps an ltr strong and a girl submissive. Whats my best course of action? thanks.