Anxiety has never really gone away?

PDX_Relationshipnerd · 2017-09-21T14:54:24+00:00

Those butterflies before you go out? Yeah those will never go away. If they do, that usually means you're not looking forward to going out and that you might be suffering from other issues.

If you're going out, and you believe that you might meet an awesome person/people, then you should be excited. It is a little nerve racking, approaching strangers carries that risk of rejection, but also carries the potential for reward. Both are equally scary for their own reasons. Embrace the anticipation and use that energy when you go out. If that feeling goes away, then re-evaluate your situation.

iamtheswoop · 2017-09-21T15:03:00+00:00

Read Models by Mark Manson. The anxiety never goes away, it just changes form. Don't resist the anxiety, but don't let it deter you either.

pjay898 · 2017-09-21T15:34:53+00:00

It will never, ever, ever go away. But your interpretation changes a lot at you keep pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. You will start to interpret it as excitement as you go deeper into the night but you'll always always be anxious/nervous at first. This concept is extremely important as a newbie.

superomar13 · 2017-09-21T15:57:55+00:00

Appreciate the responses. So that initial anxiety never goes away. I completely understand the excitement thing though, literally after the first approach, sometimes the second, I start to get really excited. I just don't like that initial anxiety before my first approach lol

grate314 · 2017-09-21T18:54:19+00:00

You just need a state change. Physically/chemically speaking anxiety and excitement are the exact same thing.

I've been a performer my entire adult life. Plays, bands, etc... I always get butterflies before going onstage, it's my favorite part. I feel truly alive in that moment. It's great.

sorry_mommy · 2017-09-21T19:21:03+00:00

I disagree with some of the others. I think it does go away over time, once you become more confident and comfortable with your own self and your social skills. Keep pushing yourself to do it, push past your comfort zone, and continue improving yourself and your confidence. You will get there.

LIONTAMERRR · 2017-09-21T20:09:25+00:00

Hey dude. Here is one thing that can kick Social anxiety for good- or at least significantly reduce it. I got this from someone named William Beteet and it's called "IMPROV Class". Check it out.

DavidGolani11 · 2017-09-22T06:43:44+00:00

take some valerian

shhQuietNow · 2017-09-22T20:17:14+00:00

Anxiety does go away - completely. And I used to have social anxiety. I don't get any aa or excitement when I first talk to people either, its only when I'm about 1-5 mins into a conversation, when I've found my rhythm and every girl just opens easily for me is when things start ramping up in excitement.

I think its like this because my state is always elevated. I used to be extremely neutral or deadpan all the time but I've figured out to not be. At pretty much 24/7 I want and am ready to roll out and pick up girls, even if I'm knee deep in code, had shit thrown at me all day, or what have you. I'm just always ready.

If going out is a state change for you, then I can see how it will always cause some degree of anxiety / excitement. If you're always excited, then going out or doing pickup is the same as taking a piss.

Not_unique_enuf · 2017-09-21T16:45:14+00:00

It never does unless you are a psychopath or you have some form of brain anomaly. This won't ever go.

Title	Anxiety has never really gone away?
Author	superomar13
Upvotes	40
Comments	16
Date	September 21, 2017 2:31 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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