LTR & Weed Habit

jacques_cousteau007 · 2018-08-05T19:52:07+00:00

Unacceptable behavior is treated with withdrawn attention.

Ignore her when she discusses the behavior, or when she’s under the influence.

Over time, she will get the hint and stop in order to please you.

Unless you’re low SMV. Then she’ll blow smoke in your face like the scene in American History X.

ECoast_Man · 2018-08-05T20:14:33+00:00

Being insanely generous, I would give it a little longer than a month and see if she eventually tires of this phase. This is your best case scenario, and its very unlikely.

Slightly more realistic? If this is an LTR you can try laying down the law. Ultimatums don't work, so don't frame it that way. Just sort of make fun of her for being a pothead and sitting around watching Netflix all day, or even say - stoners are losers or something. It's a fine line here because you don't want to appear butthurt, but if you agree and amplify well enough she might get the message.

Most likely - sorry bro, looks like you're demoting. I'd give this a >75% chance of the outcome here.

Fact is, you (justifiably) don't want her doing it. It's only whether she stops and you move on, or doesn't and you move on.

PR0JECT_XIII · 2018-08-06T05:36:13+00:00

an absurd temporary comfort used to escape reality

So is a lot of other substances.

You obviously don't detest cannabis enough to let her go.

Throwaway-242424 · 2018-08-06T04:30:57+00:00

You sound like one of those annoyingly evangelistic ex-addicts tbh.

HurricaneHugues · 2018-08-05T20:07:36+00:00

"Im prepared to demote by the way but don't want it to come to it since I don't really care what she does its just this particular thing that gets my gears going.."

So much hamstering. Clearly youdo care, and it does bother you if ure posting about it. The issue is that you dont want to practice abundance mentality and youre not wiling to let go of a sinking ship. You know the answer already. Youhave no right to change her. All u can do is adjust herimportance in your life based on her actions.

Throwaway-242424 · 2018-08-06T00:40:51+00:00

i feel weed is nothing but an abused temporary comfort used to escape reality

i simply tell her im more of an alcohol guy

Uhhh

Title	LTR & Weed Habit
Author	spider514
Upvotes	6
Comments	20
Date	August 5, 2018 7:48 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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"Im prepared to demote by the way but don't want it to come to it since I don't really care what she does its just this particular thing that gets my gears going.."