5+ years of the same Vag (27M, 26F). Things have been "good" relatively speaking. So long story short last year (I believe April 2019) I convinced my LTR to go off NuvaRing (she had been on it since 18) to see how it would be sex wise (because we felt the sex was losing excitement). She did and a few months later, from basically august to January/February we had amazing sex, she was creaming all over my dick and she was doing more stuff than normal (we started playing with her ass and making videos, and using toys).
Come Feb she gets a massive pregnancy scare and gets all freaked out and goes right back to the NuvaRing and isn't pregnant. Okay... so that leads me to last night....
We were talking and basically we haven't been seeing each other hardly at all due to quarantine and me being an "essential" worker with positive co-workers and exposures. It comes out that her libido has crashed, she hasn't been feeling horny, doesn't know why the sex has been lackluster, why she can't get it going in the bedroom etc. Says it's not me but an issue with her. We both live with our parents now, as we were looking to buy a place before the pandemic started - and she's basically saying that she thinks a part of it is that she can't make noise and get into it when my parents are home. When we bang at a place where no one is around, it's wildly good sex and just what we both want, so I think this might be part of the issue. I should mention she is saying she's not getting horny at all and in her words "that disgusts me" because she can't figure out what the root of the problem is.
At the same time, I'm starting to wonder if I'm the issue. My self-confidence in the bedroom has plummeted because I feel like I'm not good enough and giving it to her good enough or that she's checking out of the relationship? Then, on the flip side I'm wondering if it's because of the hormonal Birth Control. I'm turning into a mess mentally and not sure how to figure this out. She clearly says she still wants to be with me and that's not the question (I don't think) as she has been working with a local jeweler to custom design a ring... which is a big deal for her to take the next step. She's basically saying we should rent a place together to help fix the noise problem with sex.
Any thoughts to help a brother out? Or at least things I could mention or ask to figure out what the problem is? I don't want a dead bed room or a LTR with no sex drive.
EDIT: just to clarify how little we've seen each other... 2 times since March 19.
EDIT 2: she made mention that "I want to get back to the old me (fitness wise) and the old us (sex wise)". I don't want to look too much into that but that's some serious woman speak because I feel like she knows what the problem is but doesn't want to tell me..
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