So most arguments are shit tests or foreplay for angry sex... She gets pissy, you ignore, logic her like she's your little sister, Dread game and disappear etc. All valid.

What about when you do something that incurs legitimate wrath? Obviously I have a specific example in mind, but I'm not interested in telling details beyond: several great dates, lots of awesome sex, she was letting me define the limits of our relationship etc. She liked "the way I carry myself", i.e. Confident, open, take what I want...

Then I was a total asshole and did something that could easily be analogous to cheating in a monogamous relationship. Showed lack of respect for her, involved a few lies, and I fully expected it to end our fling. I straight told her the full truth out of the blue.

Now she seems open to continuing, apprehensively. But I'm concerned about the loss of face/ frame and going down a shitty beta rabbit hole where she has all the power and neither of us are having all that much fun.

How can I show that I care about the shit I just put her through, that I am sorry but at the same time quickly and firmly transition back to demanding her respect / demanding she stays in my frame. I feel like if I do anything besides continue to fall on my sword she'll just tell me to go fuck myself, but I'm not into self castration/immolation.

Another way: I put myself on thin ice, but want to keep my armor, valiant steed and firm stride.