Meditation making me beta?

SelfishMonk · 2016-09-29T01:30:57+00:00

Part of the reasoning for building strong habits like meditation, exercise, and reading is that these processes ground you and make you more present. Yes, they improve your physical and mental health, but they also prevent the funk and time-lapse (almost like blacking out while drunk) that comes from something like watching YouTube or playing video games. The end game being that you have a surplus of time, the mental focus to accomplish something important, and the physical energy to execute.

So the question, whose answer is nowhere to be found in your original post: what are you working towards?

If girls are important to you, I guess you could go all-in at improving your game. That's what the RSD guys did, but they also monetized it and had a shit-ton of luck in terms of publicity and took advantage of a newly expanding market. I think you need to find a broader purpose. It sounds like you're ready for something, but chances are it's not girls. Girls will probably be just a weekly stress-relief.

JackGetsIt · 2016-09-29T03:16:17+00:00

It sounds like you've placed women as your goal. Meditation has helped you focus more but you used all that focus to mess around, bond, and flirt with women. Use that energy/focus to workout, bond with dominate males you look up to and can learn from and increase your status. Just because you get access to women and they toy with you doesn't mean you can fuck them (and it doesn't mean that fucking them will fulfill you). A women's goal is to be fulfilled by a man a mans goal is to find something worth devoting his life too.

It all seems so pointless.

It all seems so pointless because if you use all the reading, and health improvement to just chase skirts and not genuinely grow in your skills and accomplishments it IS pointless.

I'm almost done with Dan Harris's '10% Happier' and it might be right up your ally. It's a autobiographical exploration of a network news reporter and wartime correspondent that got into mediation and it sounds like he had some of the same struggles you did (although he was at a different time in his life). Check it out. It's a solid read.

RobertCarraway · 2016-09-29T04:15:37+00:00

Is it possible to achieve this amount of clarity and mental peace while at the same time being RP?

Yes. There is no conflict between RP and Meditation. I've been doing both for years.

What the fuck is going on with this?

Meditation will stir up issues that you are dealing with. You are watching yourself more closely now. Thought patterns are changing. Meditation used to cause anxiety for me - but that's because I began processing fears that were suppressed.

Your old ways are resurfacing because at your core that's still who you are. Just like my anxiety surfaced because at my core I was anxious. Just go easy on yourself, keep meditating and following TRP.

Soon you won't miss your RP façade - you'll be Red straight to your soul.

Title	Meditation making me beta?
Author	swallowingthepill1
Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	September 29, 2016 12:28 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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