Men, I need some advice.

papirojo · Thu Jan 1 0:00:00 1970 UTC

Man, cut your loss and keep it moving. You knew your plan wasn't going to work to begin with yet you hamstered your way into doing it. Trust your gut instinct next time. She doesn't care how you feel and if she wanted to know how you she would have asked.. but she still wouldn't care.

Chicks either want to bang you or they don't. She doesn't. Stop looking for closure because there is no such thing. You will never get the real reason why she doesn't feel the same way.

You can't do anything about this. You think if Brad Pitt confessed his feelings to her she would need a few days to think about it? Fuck no. You pretty much have no power here because you gave it up and the best you'll get is being her Plan B in the future.

Go radio silent. Improve yourself. Meet other women. Forget her.

jacks_not_surprised · 2014-11-30T06:42:55+00:00

You COMPLETELY turned her off with what you did.

The whole "Idk how I feel"...I personally have seen it too many times to know it means "This thing will implode in 3...2...1..."

What can you do?

Don't waste time. Cut her off.

SkorchZang · 2014-11-30T07:16:34+00:00

I didn't really get a response, just simply a "I don't know how I feel".

That's exactly why it goes against the philosophy. You think that's so unique, how she responded? Dude, that's what they all say when you dump "feelings" on them. The next oneitis in your life will tell you the exact same thing and then you'll start catching on. You gain nothing by telling women "how you feel". There isn't any closure she can give to you, it's all in your head. It's against her interests and against her very nature to give you definite closure in the form you expect she could.

"I don't know how I feel" is woman-speak for "you put me off already to the point that nothing will ever happen, but keep dangling, I like that, plus I'm not going to say anything that makes me look bad."

What to do about it, here's my advice bro, start calling her "bitch" to her face all the time. When you say hello, say "Hi bitch, where you been?" and smile. When she has to go, say "alright bitch, see you later have fun!". Use it as a word of endearment.

It's just a bitch, and you're chasing her. Never chase a bitch, ever. She isn't doing the Oneitis to you, you're doing it to yourself.

2014-11-30T06:50:30+00:00

Haha, funny I did the exact same thing years ago. Did not work out w it the girl, which im glad because that would have been a horrible relationship experience.

If you inexperienced with getting over oneitis you have to cut that person out completely. Every-time you see, hear, or text this girl your getting a little chemical reaction and a little surge of adrenaline. Unless you live or work with this girl, you have to cut them outa of everything.

Reward the girls that are into you, this girl likes the little validation you give her but gave you a fucking jezebel.com answer.

[deleted] · 2014-11-30T09:08:09+00:00

God so many children giving horrible advice.

You did good OP, facing daemons with a fuck all attitude is way better than pussyfooting trough life half assed.

"I don't know how I feel".

that screams : TAKE CHARGE AND LEAD ME MOTHERFUCKER!

The appropriate response should have been ok, lets figure it out together tonight at 8 will do <bla,bla>. If you like me, will give it a shot if not, I'm sure a broken hearth won't kill me, at least I tried.

Now it's to late unfortunately, whatever her decision will be it will based on a rationalisation rather than experience. To dilute the bullshit. If she rationalises she wants a relationship with you, you start leading(not strongly) immediately and work that tingle. You need to confirm the emotions that pushed her rationalisation into giving you a shot. If she doesn't give you a shot, be happy, you are free, she doesn't have even basic tingle for you and she didn't lead you on.

tyranus89 · 2014-11-30T09:13:28+00:00

The fuck 10 women hasn't worked (admittedly it hasn't been 10, but a few).

It does work. You haven't done it. It's 10 for a reason.

As others have said, she's not into you. Sorry (truly).

Cut off all contact. Block from all social media. Delete her number and block her number from calling/texting your phone (if possible).

Work on yourself, or something in your life. Start building something bigger than yourself. It'll consume your mind, body and soul.

Talk to lots of different women. I mean that two ways -- lots of women, and different women. Not just 100 girls from the same bar. Different types of people. Sleep with them as much as you can. Develop fun, no-strings relationships.

Keep with this dosage for 2 months; you'll be good.

JackGetsIt · 2014-11-30T16:55:34+00:00

"I don't know how I feel" Listen man, this is the best thing that could have ever happened to you in your whole life, because if that girl would have said "I love you and want to fuck right now," you'd still be bluepilll and 6 months or a year down the road or 2 years into a marriage she would have left you because of your bluepill tendencies.

Now imagine if you took the redpill, fully embraced it in all its sourness and difficulty to swallow.

She says yes and because of your RP training you intrinsically know and understand that she can leave at anytime and you act like a man as a result and more then likely she sticks around because of it.

She says no and you are fine, you have abundance mentality and you move on all the better for it.

You have oneitus the cure is redpill.

marriedalpha · 2014-11-30T06:46:29+00:00

As a married alpha male with some beta tendencies I'd like to say that you blew it if you are looking for a LTR, but its not too late.

RP still applies to those with ONEitis and LTR's. Just because you end up exclusive doesn't mean that you have to go full beta and throw away TRP and lick shoe for the rest of your life.

In fact, the only way you can fight things like Hypergamy in marriage is through a strong RP stand. I'm new to RP but been living lots of this in my marriage.

First off, may will tell you here, don't ever tell a girl you have ONEitis. She has to constantly think she's at risk of losing you.

If you really wanted to "get the girl" your typical beta behavior just forced her into the hands of a pump and dump alpha who could give a fuck about her.

Hold your frame, quit calling her, next time you see her run game on her just like you would any whore in a bar. Start working on spinning plates as well.

If you really want to be with her she has to think you DON'T want her. Otherwise, let her run through her Alpha Fucks, maybe bears a child, and you can later be her Beta Bucks guy begging for blowjobs, raising some Alpha's kid.

alreadyredschool · 2014-11-30T13:41:51+00:00

I decided to tell the woman how I feel about her. I know this goes against the philosophy, but I wanted to get an answer.

Yeah, just tell it her out of the blue, don't built attraction first, don't make out with her first, man, just imagine a girl would do this to you.

DanG3 · 2014-11-30T13:47:26+00:00

"I know this all completely blue pill, but I need to close that part of my life for certain before I can embrace TRP. If she doesn't reciprocate how I feel ... "

She doesn't know how she feels because, while she might WANT to feel something, she simply does not. She is being real and truthful. Her feelings for you will depend on how much you act - ARE - like a confident assertive, desirable man - a man who does not need her feelings to determine what he wants, should do, or how he should be.

You say that you will embrace RP dependent on how this situation works out. It should be the other way around. Embracing RP will turn this situation around - and the rest of your life.

oldredder · 2014-11-30T21:58:08+00:00

it's all good to throw it in her court, say how you feel, and let her figure herself out. You did go fuck other women. Not an entire but look at it this way: your prescription isn't used up so you have to use it up before you go for a refill!

Doctor's Orders.

favours_of_the_moon · 2014-11-30T06:37:34+00:00

Wow what a cunt. I guess you can't expect a definitive answer from a woman.

Here's the red pill answer: She's into you, but you're too blue pill for her to commit. She wants you to me more assertive with her.

LeggyBlueEyes · 2014-11-30T12:57:36+00:00

I don't understand why you told her instead of just asking her out/gaming her. That would have answered your question too. And now, even if she had an interest, she is doubting it because you didn't. It's like when my former SO used to say he wanted to have sex. Even if I had been in the mood for it, the minute he ASKED me for it I lost my desire. I told him this many times even though I didn't understand why it happened. After TRP it finally clicked. He didn't talk. He acted.

Title	Men, I need some advice.
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Date	November 30, 2014 6:18 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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