My game sucks

Dartleather · 2018-11-04T04:44:29+00:00

I've come from your position and while I am still developing, it took me about 4 months to realize what I was doing wrong. Hopefully, with the advice im about to give, you will take less time.

I was easily able to secure dates off Tinder and Bumble, but far too much of a pussy to hit on someone in the middle of the day or even in a club. I would go on dates with these gorgeous women and then get ghosted the next day and then get all depressed like a little bitch because I didn't have any other options and I knew my game sucked.

I decided to experiment and attend each new date from there on in a different mood/personality so I could figure out what worked and what didn't. I tried being extremely nice and giving, I tried being honest, I tried being angry, nonchalant, quiet, loud, obnoxious, rude, a comedian, IDGAF attitude. I realized that it doesn't matter what angle you take it from, you still need to display the same fundamental principles which are plastered all over TRP. However it just so happens that by not being nice, gushy, giving, and needy all the time and you start being more IDGAF, dominant, masculine, then you are much more likely to implement these fundamental principles and be successful.

These were the most important things I learned from my experiment:

Women want to be lead, and this is your job. They don't all want to be controlled, but they all want to be lead. This boils back down to alpha traits as alpha's lead.
Women will always want something from you and if you have nothing to give (e.g. excitement, spontaneity, good chat, sexual tension, money, status) they will find someone that will.
Women want to have their feelings taken on a rollercoaster. They want excitement, they want to feel scared but not in danger, they want to feel sad but know that you can save them from that sadness. They want to feel like things are on the verge of breaking and then she wants you to come through so she can live out her 'knight in shining armor' fantasy. It's up to you if you want to play along, (I don't recommend living out her fantasy, but do take them on an exciting ride which is called your life).
Women want a challenge. If you come out on a first date and give all your cards away, open up too much, or even tell her about this challenging thing in your life and that you don't know how to overcome it, you've fucked yourself. You've essentially given her the frame and you're covertly asking to be lead by her. Women want the challenge of trying to 'mentally conquer' you via shit tests to challenge you for the frame. If you give them this frame, this lead, they realize they don't want it and they also don't want to give it back to a pathetic loser who gave it away in the first place, so they will do the next best thing and throw it all away.

The best ways to absorb this into yourself and naturally act in a way to get results is to simply stop acting like a little beta bitch. You don't have to go all macho and dominate everything and everyone, but you really do need to have an 'I am the prize' mindset. You need to start adopting more alpha male traits. The way I have been changing myself is through my daily habits, routines, and hobbies. I now lift 5 days a week. I do yoga once a week. I try and meditate daily. I take a shower and run through affirmations. This is ALL inner game stuff. All stuff that is going to give you the 'I am a prize mindset'. This lifestyle change was for me to get better at life, but it also helped me in my approach to women and dating. On top of this, I also realized that I needed to start being more dominant and harder with women. I now tease them recklessly, I tell them what we will be doing and where. If a girl has a weak excuse and can't keep a date I ghost them.

chazthundergut · 2018-11-04T06:00:53+00:00

Where is the breakdown occurring? You are getting first dates and then they reject you or what? Do they flake before the date altogether?

BuckNekkid18 · 2018-11-04T11:50:11+00:00

I have nothing of value to add to this thread but I'd like to say that you shouldn't feel bad for being 5'8-5'9. We're taller than 75-80% of the women. Most of my friends are 6'+ and besides the initial attraction most of them are bad when gaming women.

smellyflamingo · 2018-11-04T02:13:26+00:00

I have the same problem lol

No problem getting dates, only text for logistics etc but can usually never make it past one date, get ghosted a lot of the time after which I’ll be honest - kind of hurts, especially from girls I’m not really interested in just want to practice on...

That being said I have an n-count of over 40 and I’m 23 so I’m doing better than a lot of guys I guess, I can never just keep it going with a girl though, most of my kills are one night stands

I’m done trying for a bit I’m gonna come back to this issue, focusing on working on myself the next little bit

Title	My game sucks
Author	throwinghthisoneaway
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	November 4, 2018 1:42 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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