My gf does this shit test every so often, and it never leads to sex. Obviously. How to handle?

DanG3 · 2014-08-06T08:26:37+00:00

She's saying that you are too concerned about her when you fuck. It's distracting/annoying to many women when the man is always trying to be considerate of the woman, make her cum or enjoy herself. (It's as much a turnoff as a beta trying to please by being nice and/or playing Chore Game to win attraction/approval.)

Response: "It's complicated because you have too many clothes on." Pull off her pants, firmly position her, mount her and fuck her hard. NO lovey dovey kissing, etc. Don't worry about her orgasm. That's her responsibility.

It took me 19 years to learn that my wife is just fine without "the ordeal" (her words) - or even without her orgasm. By the time I pull off her pants she's wet. I enjoy it and I make enough noise to let her know. Her VJ is telling me she is enjoying it because she keeps getting wetter. She has never complained that she didn't orgasm.

I used to post on another site where there was a lot of interaction with women. Some confirmed that sometimes they just want to be fucked (hard/enthusiastically) without the whole ritual. YMMV - She'll let you know. In the context of it being natural for a woman to want to please the Man she's into, it makes perfect sense. Now go and enjoy.

redpillshadow · 2014-08-06T10:42:34+00:00

"sometimes I want sex. Like I just want a cock inside me but you have to make it all complicated and messy"

Make a mental note that she didn't say your cock when she is talking about satisfaction but in the same sentence blame you for bad sex.

She isn't saying "I want to fuck you now" and that is why she is rejecting your advances. All she wants is your attention and the knowledge that you will jump whenever she says jump. Once you jumped it of course annoys her.

Reject her. "Not now". And then stand your ground of no attention when she tries to turn it into a fight.

aOs_Student · 2014-08-06T09:24:59+00:00

"sometimes I want sex. Like I just want a cock inside me but you have to make it all complicated and messy"

Agree and amplify with a bit of dread game.

"You're right I should go fuck other girls that love it messy". Something a long those lines that make it as though you have side poon to make her hamster run.

KyfhoMyoba · 2014-08-06T22:45:12+00:00

Possibility: Her initiation of sex is not perceived by OP, i.e., she's too subtle for him to notice her signal(s). It's happened with me before, and lots of guys I know.

niczar · 2014-08-06T04:59:14+00:00

How do you go about it? You could wrestle her, playfully but strongly. They find that exciting usually, and it's a way to show that if she wants to play, you're going to win.

LukeMooney · 2014-08-06T08:25:30+00:00

Ignore her, then say this whilst looking at the T.V. (do not avert your gaze)

Can you shut up. I'm trying to watch T.V.

Now, hold tight, there will probably be a lot of shit flung your way, just hold tight, never look at her, hold strong, you'll get your reward eventually. If she starts to physically escalate keep watching T.V. but go along with it. Let her suck you off whilst your still watching the T.V. when it's time to bang, do it like a porn star. If she doesn't escalate, just hold tight, watch the T.V. then carry on as if she'd never said it. This kind of play will get you what you want short term.

Long term, you probably fucked, as what she's doing is unacceptable, however, as the man you must take responsibility. And what that means is, you're almost certainly not giving her tingles as you should be which is leading to this sex problem. So you may want to re-read the sidebar, the top posts, start spending more time on yourself, and generally trying to internalise the concepts on this sub. I.E. become a better man, specifically more alpha, and stop doing anything beta. Then her pussy will get plenty wet for you.

GraphicSeniorNudity · 2014-08-06T09:12:18+00:00

I think this is more drastic than you're making it out to be.

She's saying she wants sex, but that you suck as a person and are no fun to have sex with. You should be pissed, you have every right to be pissed.

First of all stop responding to this bullshit. Continue watching TV, or whatever it is you were doing before she demanded attention.

Dread game, go. Ignore her, do not pursue her, make her literally jump you if she wants it. Go do something with your friends or by yourself, don't check in with her.

Take one for the team and jack off for a week. See how she reacts.

AveofSpades · 2014-08-06T05:06:11+00:00

Lost cause. On to the next one

[deleted] · 2014-08-06T05:25:19+00:00

But babe, it's when its intricate and messy when it's the most fun!

Actually, she just sounds like a bitch. Girl talk for "I want sex just not with you"

I would even go with shes the one making it complicated and messy and is just projecting, you just wanted some fux. What's complicated about sex? Get naked, touch and flop around on each-other a bit, get in a few cuddles, bing bang boom! If it's complicated to either of you, it's not fun, and you should go out and go get some fun sex.

Title	My gf does this shit test every so often, and it never leads to sex. Obviously. How to handle?
Author	thatfell
Upvotes	4
Comments	18
Date	August 6, 2014 4:02 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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