Need Advice Getting Serious w/ Plate

bankruptedcasino · 2015-01-28T18:23:32+00:00

Step One: Continue doing what you're doing. Continue to treat her like a plate. Do not change your behavior or otherwise indicate you're willing to upgrade your relationship.

Step Two: Wait for her to try and extract promises of commitment from you in a passive-aggressive way. This typically manifests itself as increased shit tests that spring up out of nowhere and for no apparent reason whatsoever, a sudden increase in bitchy behavior that has no apparent explanation, and/or flakiness.

Step Three: Handle the shit tests as you normally would. Maintain frame when the bitchiness occurs, but if it crosses your personal boundaries, soft next. Flakiness gets a soft reprimand and a soft next.

Step Four: Once she realizes her passive-aggressive tactics failed to have her desired effect on you, or once she realizes she overplayed her hand and you may have walked out of her life forever, she will tell you she acted that way because she "doesn't know what this is or where this is going." She may even straight up ask, "What are we?" or "What am I to you?"

Step Five: The moment step four occurs, ask her if that's the reason why she's been acting so weird lately (if she has). Press her until she confesses. Then say, "If you want to be my girlfriend, the way to do it is to talk about it like an adult, not throw a temper tantrum like a seven year old. I'm still interested in seeing you, but this has put me on edge. I'd like to take things slow for a while."

Step Six: Watch her behave like a princess so pure you'd think NAWALT. Enjoy it. It won't last. She's just auditioning.

Step Seven: Wait for her to ask you, directly, what y'all are or where this is going. Then say you'd like to be official. Be as nonchalant as possible, like you're reading the score of the ballgame from the screen because she asked who's winning. Alternatively, nonchalantly tell her (preferably while the two of you are doing something mundane, like going to the grocery store or cooking a regular Saturday meal in the kitchen), "Let's be boyfriend and girlfriend." Watch her be giddy with excitement.

Step Eight (Most Important): Watch to see how quickly she updates her social media to reflect the change in her relationship status. If she waits more than six hours, and definitely more than one day, she's a piece of shit that doesn't deserve any more of your time and attention. Source: Personal experience.

DontBeAMangina · 2015-01-28T17:30:34+00:00

Sounds like a little oneitis.

Hang out with her a little more often (once a week) and do something besides sex. But make sure anything you do leads to sex. You won't be an orbiter if you keep it interesting.

I don't recommend doing this, it will just lead to a nastier end result. One of you will become attached and your favorite plate is going to break. Either that, or you will end up committing to someone who gave away their only resource (pussy) without you giving up your resource (commitment), meaning she's a hoe.

TA_2985_A6E1_9FC3 · 2015-01-28T18:52:58+00:00

Ask yourself why you plated her instead of looking at her as LTR material.

If the answer is for a good cause, continue her plate status, DO NOT upgrade her.

Title	Need Advice Getting Serious w/ Plate
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Date	January 28, 2015 4:40 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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