Need help with a possible shit test

RojoEscarlata · 2014-02-03T14:45:48+00:00

"you are going to hate me then"

You don't have to be witty to deflect shit tests, just agree and amplify.

Also threat everything that you consider disrespectful to you as a shit test.

Edit: let's brake down the convo.

First your response and the use of "lol".

Lol, emoticons and all shit like that are too often used as buffer to give the sender plausible deniability. This is very weak because it denotes that you feel insecure and want an escape in case you offend the girl.

For example:

"I liked how your ass looked today" &lt;---&gt;"I liked how your ass looked today, lol (or an Emoticon)"

See how different they sound/look? One is an statement the other is simply a joke. Just as in real life you have to say what you mean and mean what you say unapologetic.

Let's move to her new response. Obviously she is shit testing you again (most likely due that "lol")

But what catched my eye was the word "chance" this is very revealing because it tells you what does she think about you or the value that she is has given to you.

She is putting herself above you (probably your fault) and making herself the "price" she is setting you up for failure making you validate your self to her.

You need to work on your outcome dependancy, inner game and overall frame.

I would have sent just a "lol" this for me is the right way to use these textual cruchs, like in a dismissing way. But since you lost frame with the last text the respond needs to change the dynamics back to your favor.

But these of course with the possibility to make her walk away, but who cares? Plenty girls out there.

A hail Mary could maybe salvage this. A simple "I don't" (as in I don't care) could do the trick, depending on the attraction you have build.

[deleted] · 2014-02-03T02:34:07+00:00

Damn, she's digging the shit out of you bro. I would reply something like:

"ha thats what I love about being me. Your type wants nothing to do with a guy like me"

TfahsNoriEht · 2014-02-03T02:56:36+00:00

1) Agree and amplify

OR

2) Ignore

nicethingyoucanthave · 2014-02-03T14:53:01+00:00

"you'll get the chance for me to hate you"

when she hates someone, it's a privilege for them. "Wow, I wish I had that opportunity for you to hate me."

GaiusScaevolus · 2014-02-03T02:31:44+00:00

I'd probably just not respond or continue the conversation as if you never received that message.

If you must acknowledge, maybe "..." or "lol". The idea is projecting outcome independence and IDGAF mentality.

mrust · 2014-02-03T07:40:36+00:00

After the update: Stop thinking about texts to flirt with this girl and start thinking about texts to set up a meeting, otherwise you are just giving her validation.

"chances arent given theyre taken. meet me on thursday at X"

Title	Need help with a possible shit test
Author	CAUGHTSHAVINGMYBALLS
Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	February 3, 2014 2:10 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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