Hello guys,

I'll save you the typical rant on a blue to red transformation but it's happening. Was a bitch in highschool stumbled many times as a hard beta until I was lead here. Been lurking for about a year now, but recently I had some success.

Little Background:

Started a FWB with a girl simply to learn the ropes. She was under my SMV, and I wanted to implement everything I've learned. Got laid many times, but I just wasn't attracted to her after the nasty shit she did with me. She wanted to go exclusive, I didn't, and It staled, I ended it, but was addicted to the attention, and the artificial companionship.

I ended that the first week into my freshman semseter after seeing how much better I could do. I was excited. Too excited. Made many gains and was starting to turn heads at the bars, and finally I felt I was close to where I wanted to be.

Shortly after, I met a girl through a mutual friend. She had all the green flags I wanted, but didn't show her true self until I was in too deep. I rushed in, showed to many cards, and couldn't even plate this girl. I was frustrated, and embarrassed for relapsing. Went radio silent.

One night I was at a party when I got a phone call from this girl asking why I haven't spoken to her in a while. Said I was done and wanted to regain my self worth after putting her on a pedestal. The tears insued but I didn't budge.

Half drunk me, pissed at myself for letting myself go down that road, channeled the anger to my dick. I instantly set out on a girl a friend of mine brought to the party from school that no one knew. I had nothing to loose, said fuck it and hit it off with this chick. Hooked up, and secured a plate for later down the road. So many red pill things clicked with me, and that girl was the kick in the ass I needed to get back in the mind set.

The success makes me excited for the future as I know I'm improving. But....

Questions:

How can I become more patient and not rushing into things with girls, ie, not showing all your cards.

How do you get into the mind set of long term gratification, and not taking short cuts.

Patience is my problem. Any other tips would be great.