Need some advice on how I can develop self control.

HenricusKunrath · 2019-04-06T19:13:04+00:00

Will power is like a muscle, it will take years to hone and build. Discipline yourself in all areas of your life. Cleaning, work, school, gym, mental patterns, emotions, should all be disciplined. If your sloppy in one area it will spread.

Regularly listen to motivational audiobooks to help keep you focused.
Keep a journal to track when you fail and why. Understand the patterns.
Don't spend/minimize time with weak, unmotivated, undisciplined people.
Understand the antecedent triggers that cause the undesired behavior.
Easy choices hard life, hard choices easy life.

Duelist_Roger · 2019-04-06T19:19:49+00:00

If you end up jerking off, you limit your testosterone and potential to meet a girl what will get you laid.

(The more sexual drive, the easier It becomes to approaching etc.)
This is a BIG one for me, since I know this exactly and yet I catch myself from time to time repeating this shitty mistake. It's lying to yourself, pretty badly. Don't do that OP!

Watching TV is not the worst thing there. If you watch while eatting for example, you don't limit yourself badly but of course there are countless better ways to spend time.

Have you ever tried high quality nuts, dry papajas fruits + oats + almond milk?
It is SO DELICIOUS. Or since I started lifting, don't you have this HIGH craving for bloody meat?

From vegan alike lifestyle I became so much carnivore, that I am surprised myself.

Or some amazing salad (just use cool fresh veggies what you have in your country) + some sheep cheese/salmon + some oils and IT ROCKS.

Since I started eatting high quality stuff, I treat shitty food as SHITTY food. It isn't delicious anymore, It is just MEH.

And yes I afford this as a college student. You can do It too.

Willpower is the most important there like /u/resnine mentioned, but just having better options what you truly enjoy helps as well. For jerking off like I said It's getting laid. For watching TV maybe change It to reading sth instead/watching a meaningful thing? And the shitty food change to quality one, It's just tastier.

resnine · 2019-04-06T18:40:17+00:00

Willpower. Do what you tell yourself you are going to do. No excuses.

8380atgmaildotcom · 2019-04-06T19:23:26+00:00

Use it to your advantage.

Be antifragile

throwawayycheyeah · 2019-04-07T08:43:34+00:00

Everyone is trying to figure out how to get more willpower and there is no right answer for everyone. Are you consistantly working out? They say that exercise spills over into all areas of your life. People who exercise and stick to it are more dependable, more confident, more motivated, and happier than those who don't.

That's why so many companies have things like free gyms or discounts/reimbursements to exercise gear. Employees who regularly work out are better employees. Your company could give 2 shits about you getting diabetes in 25 years from being over weight as long as you continue to show up for work, BUT being able to make you a better employee is completely worth what they spend on a gym. So my advice is to start working out and take it as seriously as you can.

Title	Need some advice on how I can develop self control.
Author	ImproveYourself2
Upvotes	4
Comments	12
Date	April 6, 2019 5:31 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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